Without a label, you aren’t the poor girl who is getting neglected by her boyfriend. You are the girl who cares too much. The girl who is trying too hard. The girl who is obsessed with a boy who doesn’t even belong to her.
Dating & Relationships
You had strong feelings for him. And you really thought he felt the same.
She doesn’t understand why they would treat her like they’re falling hard if they were only going to push her away in the end. It doesn’t make any sense to her.
“After about a year of back and forth, I told him he could either make me his official girlfriend or lose me forever. He picked the right option.”
Sure, your SO is there to support you and to help you with taking care of yourself in those ways, but what about when he/she isn’t there?
We are too eager for a quick fix. For a warm body to lay next to at night. And just as easily, we are all too quick to go, to leave, and to run. We run from the one thing that we keep saying that we truly want.
And sometimes you drink a little and your eyes tell a different story. Your vulnerable voice tells me you hate this distance. Your body tells me you’re afraid of getting closer.
Maybe she’s afraid you don’t actually mean what you’re saying. She’s heard tender words that turned out to be lies. She’s been promised futures that were shattered the next day.
Closure is what you make of it. What matters is how the thing you are seeking closure for affected you. What lessons you took from it. And how easily you are willing to let it go.
The truth is, you deserve to be loved. Even now, with all of your flaws. However difficult you think you are, there is someone out there who will love you.