Laying the groundwork for effective compromise, especially in make or break moments, happens long before the moment even begins.
People expect a “good” relationship to sustain itself.
There’s no perfect relationship in this world.
Standing in our truth is knowing we are enough, that we already have all we need, that it all begins within us. It’s knowing that we are deserving of love, joy, kindness, respect and beauty. That our feelings matter, that we matter and that to try and compromise our fundamentals is to betray ourselves.
Relationships thrive when needs are met and falter when they’re not. That fact, quite simply, is non-negotiable.
Healthy love brings you down to earth.
Our brain does not distinguish if this gratitude is overwhelming and robust, or simply a new attempt. All that matters is the intentional act of giving thanks.
Love that lasts, in all actuality, is frequently disguised as a much less sexy and much more intentional, sometimes exhausting, but always rewarding version.
These are all acceptable things to “compromise” upon–not so when you give up something essential inn order to keep someone else happy, unthreatened or trying to meet their needs while ignoring yours.
Hint: Love is not enough.