If I don’t get to see all the countries on my list in this lifetime, then so be it. What will be will be.
There’s also a curious convulsion of nostalgia that comes when I think of the person I was when I added that item to the list. But mostly you feel unbelievably content that you kept a promise to your younger self. It was exhilarating.
Go hiking- but wear the silliest outfits each of you can find!
Don’t limit yourself. You don’t need a moment to check off in order to be fulfilled or to have a great story.
The check mark is worth more than the experience. The problem I have lies not with the list itself, but rather that the focus lies on “ticking a box” and neglects the planning, the reflection, and taking in the moment.
I promise you that there will never be a perfect time to do anything in life.
At 21, I ended a five year relationship with my first real love. I watched helplessly as all the plans we had made disintegrated in front of me. There went any house-buying-child-rearing-dreams I had naively been counting on. As a life-saving effort to start anew, I quickly wrote down “Move to a major city (12-13-2009).” And in parenthesis next to it, “(for a new beginning)”.
Sneaking onto the roof of a campus building with a good friend, some blankets, and a bottle of wine and spending the whole night talking and admiring the view.
Identifying the things that don’t matter to us could help us recognize the things that do.