It’s an ability that not everyone has. It is an intentional acquisition. A time-consuming, fervent practice. A decision-based ability that takes a heart.
Be present in everything you do. Pay attention to the food you eat and how good it tastes, to the wine you drink and how pleasant the flavors are, to the movie you’re watching without simultaneously scrolling through your phone and missing all the important parts, to the walk you’re on and how beautiful your surroundings are. Put in the effort, one day at a time, to open your eyes to the life you’ve created for yourself. Because as they always say, if you blink, you really might miss it.
Lead by example. Show her how much you want her around, want her in your life. Show her how you want to love her and in turn, you’ll be showing how you want to be loved back.
When you love a girl who is used to being on her own, you’re loving a girl who is scared by the possibility of ever having to relearn how to do that. You’re saying, “Please let me in,” while she’s saying, “Please don’t go.”
Why do we tie our every changing wants, our desire to understand ourselves, to one unique human being? Why do we tie our happiness, our sadness, and all that comes between to someone we arbitrarily picked out from a sea of individuals?
We sacrifice our own blood.