When you get used to being on your own, you don’t try to fill the void with fake romance or empty relationships because you’re already filling it with other activities. So you don’t really run the risk of breaking your own heart by settling or being with someone who is not right for you just because you don’t want to be alone.
No matter how inwardly connected we are, we are not islands unto ourselves. We need others with whom to share our love and our joy. We need others to play with and learn with.
Being single is a time of growth and a time of change, not a time of self-pity. Being single isn’t anything to look down upon. Being single is living your life according to you and on your own terms. Being single is being able to be alone, and not feel an ounce of loneliness.
I think now is the time you need to ask yourself why you’re looking so hard to find someone. What void are you trying to fill?
When loneliness becomes your friend, you don’t know if it’s a blessing or a curse. You know that it’s better than hating it because it seems like a constant in your life, it seems like it’s here to stay but you also wonder if this comfort is stopping you from seeing what’s out of there, from being part of the world and from living.