Being single is a time of growth and a time of change, not a time of self-pity. Being single isn’t anything to look down upon. Being single is living your life according to you and on your own terms. Being single is being able to be alone, and not feel an ounce of loneliness.
I think now is the time you need to ask yourself why you’re looking so hard to find someone. What void are you trying to fill?
We spend so much time getting to know the people around us that we forget to know ourselves.
It’s easy to become kind of self-centered and wrapped up in your own thoughts, sometimes, when you’re by yourself. In order to combat this, get out and do something important! Lose yourself in a project or dream that will benefit the world in some way.
It is a struggle, yes, but at some point, that struggle and that journey have an end that makes the pain feel like a sweet blessing in disguise.
it’s not about building up walls,
it’s about not liking anyone enough
to invite them inside for coffee.
When loneliness becomes your friend, you don’t know if it’s a blessing or a curse. You know that it’s better than hating it because it seems like a constant in your life, it seems like it’s here to stay but you also wonder if this comfort is stopping you from seeing what’s out of there, from being part of the world and from living.
Being single is not a death sentence. It’s not some incurable disease that deems you unlovable or unable to thrive and find enormous amounts of joy.
I just didn’t know who I was when I was alone and I felt like I needed someone there to guide me. But then I started taking all the energy I put into trying to get other people to love me into myself and my entire world changed.
There would be days when I would hate you for not being able to make everything better, even while knowing that it is not humanely possible for you to do so.