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Instead of blaming you for not taking care of me correctly, I am going to accept the blame for not giving you what you needed to grow and thrive.

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Beware of the condescending apology.

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This is me recognizing that you no longer need to be a painful memory. I have to let you become a life lesson.

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I am sorry that the idea of who I wanted you to be created an unrealistic expectation that I should have never depended on you to fill.

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The truth is that I miss you. The truth is that I’m sorry. The truth is that neither of those things changes anything.

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I’m sorry for not being able to show my gratitude and love. For not being selfless and vigilant. For not getting to make an effort in everyone’s lives and not being able to give back to those who have given me so much more than I deserve.

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I stood by and did nothing as you let yourself fall deeper and deeper into a dark hole.

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I just thank God for blessing me with these people who still love me at my worst. 

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Nyasha and Virginia decided to sit down together to hash out the past, and honestly the whole thing is so much more emotional that I ever expected.

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We each have a unique apology language that resonates with our hearts.