Agency, independence and the ability to thrive on your own terms is very threatening to a toxic individual. Toxic people require that their victims be isolated – success, economic empowerment and a solid support network all threaten this, so they feel they have to take back the reins on the parts of your life that grant you a sense of stability and self-actualization.
It’s wonderful to embrace each other’s flaws in a relationship, but there’s a difference between tolerating inevitable differences and tolerating toxicity. The former can strengthen an existing bond, while the latter leads to self-destruction.
No matter where you are, or how long you’ve been broken, you are strong. And you will get through this.
I wish it wasn’t pain that had to shape you into someone so beautiful. But sometimes that’s how it works. Sometimes the most beautiful people are the ones who have seen a lot of ugly things.
I won’t let you convince me that this abuse is what I deserve.
Victims are conditioned to seek their abusers for comfort – a form of medicine that is simultaneously the source of poison.
You’d rather keep your thoughts or feelings to yourself than risk hurting your partner’s feelings or starting an argument.
No man who loves you will make you feel as if you’re compromising yourself to be with him. Because that’s not love, that’s manipulation.
The reason I never disclosed the truth about what was going on in my relationship was because I was not only afraid of my friends’ judgements, but I was afraid of my own judgements.