You hate him almost as much as you love him, and you hate yourself a little for feeling both things.
I am stronger than you know.
You may wish to brush this statement aside. After all, statistics can quickly dry out matters like this.
Is your partner kinder and more respectful to others in public than they are to you behind closed doors? Do you find that the way your partner treated you in the beginning of the relationship is unrecognizable from the way your partner treats you now?
There are certain outfits he doesn’t let you wear and certain selfies he won’t let you post. If you look too attractive, he’s worried other boys will try to steal you away.
Telling you lies like you can’t leave. What that translates to is I can’t let you leave I need you.
When working with individuals who are displaying symptoms of narcissistic victim syndrome, the thing that I notice most of all is that the person feels so torn because they don’t understand what has happened to them.
It’s okay to say, ‘I am fine. I am moving on. I am letting go. I am beginning again.’
Agency, independence and the ability to thrive on your own terms is very threatening to a toxic individual. Toxic people require that their victims be isolated – success, economic empowerment and a solid support network all threaten this, so they feel they have to take back the reins on the parts of your life that grant you a sense of stability and self-actualization.
It’s wonderful to embrace each other’s flaws in a relationship, but there’s a difference between tolerating inevitable differences and tolerating toxicity. The former can strengthen an existing bond, while the latter leads to self-destruction.