Telling you lies like you can’t leave. What that translates to is I can’t let you leave I need you.
No Contact is the key that locks out that person from ever entering our heart, mind, and spirit in any palpable way again.
I love myself. Truly and always, I love myself. And for the first time in a long time, I am putting myself first.
You realise you have to learn who you are all over again. Abusive relationships drain your personal energy, they rely heavily on making you forget who you are independent of that toxic human in your life. You remember attributes of your own that you had to hide away in order to appease this toxic person. You learn how to allow those attributes to flourish.
After a while, it will feel normal. You won’t remember what it’s like to be treated the way you deserve.
They don’t mention that you must remember who you are. The you before someone stole from you and tried to tell you who or what you were.
But although you can put neat little ticks against the neat little boxes, you’re still not sure if what you went through was abuse. Because it didn’t feel like abuse. It felt like love.
Do not tell her to “just get out if it’s really that bad”
Sometimes, we focus on saving others in order to distract ourselves from our own growth.
The reason I never disclosed the truth about what was going on in my relationship was because I was not only afraid of my friends’ judgements, but I was afraid of my own judgements.