What is Squirting?
In short, squirting is the release of female ejaculate from the Skene’s gland, which is known more widely as the g-spot or female prostate. Although there’s an ongoing debate within the medical community as to what, exactly, constitutes and causes female ejaculation, there’s a healthy group of women out there who identify as “squirters”—who routinely release several tablespoons full of fluid when climaxing.
Squirting is not just the territory of porn stars intent on giving their audience a show. And it’s not just about the gushing phenomenon. Many of the women who squirt regularly during sex claim that doing so often accompanies the most intense orgasms they’ve ever experienced. So whether or not you think the fluid being emitted from a squirter is urine or some other substance, it seems silly to disregard this pleasurable practice when you can embrace the potential of a truly mind-blowing sexual experience instead.
How To Make A Girl Squirt In 5 Easy Steps
1. Talk to to her.
If you want to make a girl squirt, you absolutely need to discuss it with her first. For a lot of women, the idea of squirting bodily fluid all over a man is quite intimidating. Many women don’t like the idea, even once they understand that squirting is the same thing as peeing.
Start off by reassuring her that squirting is incredibly natural and sexy. Also emphasize that if she’s able to squirt, she might very well unlock mindblowing orgasmic potential. The main goal is to bring her amazing pleasure rather than to satisfy some fantasy or urge you’ve been harboring. At the same time, be careful not to put too much pressure on her, because she will have to be relaxed in order to successfully squirt. Emphasize that you’d like to try to make her squirt, but that you won’t be disappointed if it doesn’t happen. Frame it as a fun intimate adventure that will bring you closer together, no matter the outcome. Right before you get going, suggest that your partner use the bathroom—that way, she’ll be less likely to assume that the urge to pee she sense while close to climax is due to a full bladder.
2. Set the right mood.
Since a woman needs to feel relaxed in order to squirt, it’s important that you consider the environment beforehand. You need to ensure that you’re playing somewhere she feels comfortable letting go. So if you have a roommate, kick him out for the night. And by all means, tidy up before you initiate your squirting adventure. Make sure the room is the right temperature too, because the last thing you want is for your partner to feel distracted by the heat or the cold while you’re undressed. Dim the lights, keeping in mind that some people feel self-conscious beneath bright lights when naked. Just don’t dim them too much, as you’ll need to see what you’re doing down there. Consider a few scented candles. Overall, pay attention to your surroundings more so than usual.
3. Do not underestimate the importance of foreplay.
Once you’ve set up the right environment, you’ll want to focus on relaxing your sexual partner physically. When endeavoring to make a girl squirt, she must feel very relaxed and very turned on simultaneously, so foreplay is of the utmost important. One way to arouse a woman is to touch her, but without getting too sexual. An oil massage is a great way to accomplish this. Rub coconut oil or baby oil all over her back, steering clear of her breasts and pussy for as long as possible. Tease her a bit, but concentrate on loosening up her muscles for a solid half hour to 45 minutes before you make your next move. By then, she’ll feel calm and relaxed and ready to be stimulated vaginally.
4. Master the technique.
To get your sexual partner to squirt, you want to stimulate her g-spot in a very particular manner, triggering the release of female ejaculate. The g-Spot, or the female prostate (aka Skene’s gland), is located about 2.5 to 3 inches inside the vaginal wall, on the top side. Whereas you might typically stimulate a woman by making the come-hither motion with two fingers inside the vagina, making her squirt requires a different deliberate motion.
To make a woman squirt, you want to use your two middle fingers. With your palm facing up, point your two middle fingers at a 45 degree angle towards the ground. Insert these two fingers into her vagina, and move your hand up and down at a slight angle so that you’re rubbing the g-spot with the bottoms of your fingers (not the tips) with each motion. You’ll want to start relatively slowly so that you can build up pressure and speed gradually over time.
Eventually, you can engage your entire arm in this repetitive movement. After a while, you want to go really fast—so fast that you end up exhausting yourself. You might even need to engage your other hand to help support the dominant arm. Whatever you do, don’t stop midway or try to switch hands. Keep going—even with a dead arm if necessary.
When you start to see her breathe and writhe as if she’s about to orgasm, cheer her on! If she expresses that she’s sensing the urge to pee, encourage her to let it out. Keeping saying things like, “Come for me!” and “Push it out!” and “Let it go!” Repeat these supportive phrases over and over and over so that she feels safe enough to gush all over the place.
5. Chill out afterwards.
Whether or not your partner is successfully squirts, you’ll want her to associate the experience with pleasure so that she wants to do it again. If she does squirt, reaffirm just how sexy the process was for your from start to finish. Tell her that you enjoyed giving her so much pleasure, and that the sight of her gushing fluids was a massive turn on. If she didn’t squirt, don’t make a big deal out of it. Explain that you’re honored that she let you try, and that you’re determined to try again one day if she’ll allow it. Whatever the outcome, be sure to initiate post-coital cuddling and hold your girl tight so that she feels safe and secure.
Squirting Is NOT The Same Thing As Peeing
The following segment was written by Raine Leigh.
A few weeks ago a website released an article titled “Scientists Say ‘Squirters’ Are Actually Just Peeing Everywhere.”
Squirters and their partners were heard from all corners of the world yelling, “It’s not pee!” Any squirter will tell you the fluid does not smell, taste, or look like pee.
Yet that short, clickbait-style article explains a recent study by a team of French scientists who analyzed the excretions of seven subjects, all self-proclaimed squirters, with the study finding that “Squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists.”
Just a few weeks before that article came out, I released my book Squirting: It’s Easier Than You Think: A Holistic Guide to Female Pleasure with easy tips for achieving female ejaculation. Horrible timing, huh? Well maybe not if we can undo the harm the anti-squirting article has caused.
In some of the earliest writings on sexuality, prominent Roman physician Galen, wrote about a “thin fluid that manifestly flows when they [women] experience the greatest pleasure in coitus.” Other early writings on the subject include the Indian Kama Sutra and ancient Japanese erotic works, which also mention a fluid coming from women.
Last year, in an episode of Sex With Sunny Megatron, the sex blogger/pleasure advocate urinated in one glass, ejaculated in another, and took both to a lab. The ejaculate was identified as nearly IDENTICAL to male seminal fluid—without the sperm, of course.
Several other resources say the fluid has been analyzed previously, and it contains high levels of glucose, the enzyme prostatic acidic phosphatase, and low levels of urea and creatinine. A woman’s typical urine contains high levels of urea and creatinine, and no prostatic acidic phosphatase or glucose.
The French study the website wrote about only included seven participants, so it’s not exactly a representative sample size, and even the study concludes the prostate-specific antigen was present in five out of the seven post-squirting samples while it was not present in the before-squirting sample. This still makes female ejaculation different from urine, even if their study was not in agreement with other studies on the amount and types of chemicals all present in female ejaculate.
Female ejaculate could possibly be the fluid urine mostly consists of, but it doesn’t make it pee. Seems these scientist’s theories are just that—theories, a long way from fact. This is by far not a conclusive study.
There are many reputable sources which conflict with this newest study. You can check out this information from Columbia Health, this story from Psychology Today, this studyfrom Sandra R. Leiblum, PhD and Rachel Needle, MS or this study and this study published on the US National Institute of Medicine National Institutes of Health’s PubMed.gov.
While we can debate the exact makeup of female ejaculation, the real problem with this latest study is not even its accuracy or if other sources are inaccurate, it’s how the discussion adversely affects female sexuality. It seems like another attempt to make women feel ashamed or embarrassed of their sexuality. Even if it’s similar in composition to pee (it’s not exactly the same—ALL studies are confirming that), a squirting orgasm is one of the best orgasms a woman can have.
Articles such as what this website published make women feel ashamed or embarrassed about their orgasms, which can already be difficult for woman to have to begin with. One of the reasons women struggle with orgasming is because they worry about how they smell, taste, or look. We’ve just given women another reason to worry. Now when an orgasm is feeling over-the-top amazing, and fluid is starting to gush out of a woman, she will become embarrassed, ashamed, and think she is just peeing, encouraging her to hold back when the feeling surfaces in the future. As I talk about in my book, women often don’t squirt because they hold it back.
We still live in a society where male sexual pleasure is encouraged and a female’s is not. But it’s partially the female’s fault. After writing my book, more men than women have approached me and wanted to know more about squirting. Based on the people I’ve talked to and even the reviews I’ve received on my book, more men have read my book than women, even though I primarily wrote this book for women. Men seem more excited about the book because they are learning how a woman works, particularly during sex. Men are interested and excited about providing women pleasure. Women need to relax, embrace their pleasure, and not worry about what’s within the fluid they are expelling during an amazing orgasm.
I encourage women to find out the enjoyment of a squirting orgasm for themselves.
8 Women Who Can Squirt Reveal Exactly What It Feels Like
“It took several hours and a lot of concentrated effort—namely rubbing the roof of my vagina well past the point of comfort—but by the time I was done, I’d soaked my sheets with a liquid that resembled clean sea water in odor and appearance.”
“My husband of seven years and I were having sex. I was bent over the side of the bed and he was behind me. I moved one leg up on the side of the bed to get a better angle because he kept hitting a spot that felt really intense, but would miss it with the next stroke. After a rapid succession of strokes hitting that intense spot I felt a really strong, but unfamiliar sensation and had the desire to push from the pelvic floor. I felt a sudden rush of liquid spill down my legs and the noises from him thrusting became much more squishy sounding.”
“Feels like… when you repeatedly stimulate your g-spot for a while your vagina starts to contract as you are about to orgasm and then all of a sudden there is a warm gushy splashing and you look down and you’ve made a puddle. The first time it happened for me I had been masturbating only my G-spot for about an hour and I thought I felt something, so I sat on the floor in front of a mirror and watched myself do it again. I ended up laughing a lot at my facial expression when it happened as it was not so much an orgasmic ‘Oh’ face but an ‘Oh fuck it won’t stop squirting so high I did not anticipate this’ face.”
“For me it feels like a lot of pressure building up inside me. The stimulation needs to be really intense for me to squirt, so it feels really really good as he’s putting pressure on my a-spot and g-spot. In terms of when the fluid is actually released, sometimes I feel a small release in that pressure, other times I don’t feel anything at all and the only way I know I’m squirting is to look down and see it spraying out or for my partner to tell me it’s happening. Super hot to watch, especially seeing just how much he absolutely LOVES it.”
“I can squirt by either clit or g-spot stimulation. I started doing it in my mid-20’s and just thought I was incredibly wet, it didn’t occur to me that I was squirting until I actually felt it jet out of me the first time. My boyfriend unlocked something inside of me the first time he fingered me, I had never produced a wet spot that big before. We jokingly refer to it as “the lake Erie incident” and have since invested in a mat to protect the bed due to the amt of fluid he can cause me to produce. He says he loves it, can’t get enough of it, and goes wild when he sees and feels it happening, which makes me feel like a sex goddess. I felt like the sexiest thing alive when I sat on his face for the first time and he sat up afterwards just dripping from me, grinning ear to ear. The sensation is different from peeing, there is a deep pressure that builds up and it feels differently than urine when it comes out. Sometimes it pours out, other times it squirts out, and then there are other times where he pulls out of me and THEN it comes gushing out. I also have times where it doesn’t happen at all. It’s nothing to be scared of and I have no tips on how to make it happen other than stay hydrated, relax, and go with the flow. :)”
“It was actually pretty recently, just over a year ago. I was using a vibrator to stimulate my clitoris like I normally do. Apparently I’ve always ejaculated a tiny bit when having a clitoral orgasm but had never noticed before. This time I was wearing my menstrual cup, so there were no vaginal fluids coming out, and I could notice the tiny bit of fluid that shot from my urethra. It was a nice surprise.”
“For me, it feels kinda like the pressure of having to go pee before it happens, when it happens, it gushes out and feel super amazing. The first time it happened, I honestly did not know what happened, and thought I did pee. My husband was the one who had to explain it.”
What Do People Really Think About Squirting? A Guy And A Girl’s Perspective.
In which Alexis Caputo and Larry Hardin discuss everyone’s favorite subject.
What IS the deal with squirting?
Larry: Many men consider it to be the “Holy Grail” of sex – the pinnacle of ecstasy to which you can take your partner, and enjoy with her.
I think the rarity of it adds greatly to the intrigue surrounding it. It’s something I’ve only experienced with a woman a select handful of times, but boy, the arrival of that during the peak of some great sex raises the heat by a factor of 100 (at least for me)! Before I ever participated in a woman squirting, I saw my share of it in porn over the years, and the physical response of the particular porn actress always captivated me. Almost like her eyes were rolling back in her head. [Sidebar: There’s a fantastic scene with Pinky where she squirts like a geyser and shouts to the heavens, “MY JUICES!!!!!” A+]
My thought automatically became “I’ve got to get a woman to do that.” I saw it as a natural extension of causing a woman to orgasm. In my mind, the ideal sequence of events was to: 1. Start with prolonged foreplay – going down on your woman, patiently easing her into the experience (and possibly bringing her to orgasm this way); then 2. Engage in actual intercourse in a variety of stimulating ways/positions aimed at her pleasure; and finally 3. If possible, make her squirt. I assumed that was the ultimate release of the climactic, multi-orgasmic crescendo many women are able to experience, so in the rare event that has happened while I’m having sex, it has been both enormously satisfying and mind-numbingly HOT!!!
Alexis: It’s one of the very rare things that makes me uncomfortable. Mostly because guys ask about it and I am like um? I don’t know? Who cares? Why are you asking about squirting when there’s a million bases to cover before that (it’s always been guys who i havent had sex with, possibly as a result of their asking this question.)I don’t really get it because it’s like, I am already worried about performing on so many different levels with sex, do we REALLY need to have another one?
It’s also counter-intuitive for a woman to *want* to be messy. I read something the other day about a girl surprising a guy with being a virgin right before they had sex, and they had sex anyways. She bled and stained his mattress and he was upset about it. I think it’s wrong for him to be upset, but all my friends have had a similar experience being embarrassed with a surprise period or something. That’s part of sex, I think. In the contract of having sex with someone you are saying yes to the human element of it–it’s not going to be a movie montage and you can’t demand that. If something goes wrong, you both deal with it in a supportive way, those are the terms of having sex, for every person.
“The contract of having sex”
Larry: That gave me remarkable insight into women!
The Contract of Having Sex is a real thing, even though it’s usually shredded by the one-sidedness of your average encounter. I came across a very good movie on Netflix, “Sacred Love-Making,” and it caused me to reevaluate my entire approach to sex. I’ve always put a woman’s pleasure first in bed, but it dawned on me that the execution of that approach has rarely (if ever) been INCLUSIVE enough of my partner. Having grown in conscious awareness, I accept the vast importance of stating your intention (even if not audibly) before ANY task, and I NEVER did that with sex! Other than proclaiming “I’m bout to tear this pussy up…” What has been missing is any understanding whatsoever of a woman’s MENTAL approach to sex. With practice, you can feel when your nature collides with another – it’s unmistakable, however our awareness of it is largely physical, even primal. In short, I see it’s counterproductive as hell to be jackhammering to try and make your woman squirt when all SHE’S worrying about is the mess it’s going to make. At least when you haven’t talked it through in earnest, as it is with everything else love- and sex-related.
Alexis: I think that’s a barrier for guys who want to do anal too. The mess factor. That and the fact that there’s no prostate there in women, so it seems like a gay dude thing to do, because there’s not a sex organ there in a woman’s body.
I know a lot of guys who are really concerned with a woman’s pleasure. I think it can backfire at the same time that I know how it feels, cause I feel sexiest when the guy is having a great time. Maybe that’s what you’re talking about, that the uncomfortablness of putting a person on the spot who doesn’t like being demanding cancels out your goal of focusing on her desires.
Any closing thoughts?
Larry: Thinking on your response though, and having discussed this with other women, I’ve come to the conclusion that squirting is NOT the end all, be all for women, and that many are openly repulsed by it. I don’t judge myself for having enjoyed the experience when it’s happened, nor for being turned on when I see a porn actress squirt, but I have deemed it utterly ridiculous to try and cause a woman to do that if she has no interest in doing so. A simple dialogue like this BEFORE sex – one in which both partners discuss desires, expectations, hangups, whatever – goes a LONG way.