In the age of Sheryl Sandberg and Marissa Mayer, it’s not always easy to be with a power woman. In fact, often you when enter to a relationship as a successful, attractive woman there become very evident power plays that become difficult to deal with. How do you have an more equal relationship without making your man feel less worthy?
1. Stop Apologizing
The last time he cancelled on date night because he had work overtime, how many times did he apologize? Once. In the text message he sent notifying you of it. You shouldn’t feel guilty for the couple times that you have to sacrifice, everyone has to do it. Don’t make a habit out of it, but also be appreciative of the fact that you have a man that respects your professional life as well. Also the more you say sorry, the less it means. Save it for the times it counts.
2. Force Him To Face His Insecurity
I dated a very successful business owner, who would always tease me anytime I brought up my Ivy League Alma Mater. He wouldn’t do it an affectionate way, but in a way that clearly showed he was having an inferiority complex about his uni. However, after I made him talk to me about it, I was able to show him that it didn’t matter to me at all where he went to school, I loved and admired him separate of that. When you air out the issues, it takes power plays out of the element.
3. Spend The Time Getting Better At Love
You’re an ambitious woman, and you spend hours reading industry blogs, speaking to mentors and going to conferences to hone your skillsets. Why haven’t you spent the same time developing your emotional maturity? People assume that loving another person is just so natural that we should automatically be able to do, but they forget that love is just like any other skill and need to be nurtured. When was the last time you considered why you got in a fight and made a conscious decision not to make that mistake again? If you were bad a certain task at work, you wouldn’t just ignore it. It is unacceptable that you haven’t really analyzed your relationships, tried to understand what works and what doesn’t. The more you get better at love, the less issues of power come into play.