6 Courageous Steps For Single Ladies To Stop Playing Games And Get The Guy They Want

So you like him.  So what’s the problem?  Society tells you, you can’t possibly make the first move, because *gasp* you have a vagina?  Or are you just afraid?

Let me tell you something.  He likes you.  Betcha didn’t see that coming.
He is a man, and, if he is a heterosexual male, then, he likes women.  He likes women of all shapes, colors and sizes.  End point.

Still not clear enough?  Unless you are off the wall batshit, off-the-wall, crazy lunatic with like a bizillion cats, pee in a bucket and haven’t washed your hair since 1992, then he likes you.

He just may not know it yet.

Lets be serious here for a minute.  Men aren’t the brightest sparks in the pack…. And I don’t mean that intellectually of course, there are plenty of amazingly, incredibly smart and talented men in the world, but when it comes to women…. I think it’s safe to say, we could teach them a lesson or five.

How many male fiends have you told ‘ohhh she likes you?’ or ‘she’s totally crushing on you’ and they’ve been utterly clueless?!  Too many, right?

Men are wonderful creatures, that’s why we want to love them and them to love us back, but sometimes, just sometimes they need a little shove in the right direction, so here’s what I want you to do.

1. Lose the antiquated set of ‘rules’ we’ve all had drilled into our pretty little skulls.

About who can ask who out, and ‘don’t act too interested or he might get turned off’.  These rules were made up by some delirious 19th century chick whose corset was obviously too tight.

2. Man up.

Yes, you too.  You need to man up and ask your guy out on a goddamn date.  You know why?  Because he may never do it and then you’ll never get the chance and it may just end up being the best night of your life.

3. Do not, and I repeat do not, play hard-to-get.  

This is just stupid.  We’re not 7 playing hide and go seek in the school playground.  We are grown-ass adults that need to start acting like them.


No do not wait 34 minutes and 23 seconds to text him back because that is how long it took him to text you!!!! What are you?! FIVE?!  Shame on you!  Act your age!  Text him back because he has no idea you were counting the milliseconds between his messages.  He was out enjoying his life not with his phone glued to his hand like a 6th finger.   And trust me, he wants to hear from you too.

5. Be confident!

And I don’t say this because people say ‘men like confidant women’, I say this because I want you to believe in yourself.  Believe that you are beautiful, talented and gorgeous, because YOU ARE!  You are deserving of a wonderful relationship and you are deserving of a man who loves you.  Believe it believe in you.  Chin up, eyes forward, shoulders back and show the world and him that radiant smile he is going to fall in love with.

6. Take 20 seconds of insane courage and just do it.  

What’s the worst thing that can happen?  He says no?  So?  At least you asked, at least you can stop pining over something not worthy of your time.  The question is my dear…. What if he says yes?

Go get em’ ladies.  I’m about to go get mine! Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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