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I Am So Much More Than Who I Date

Many of us spend our days trying to find someone to share our lives with. In society, one of the first questions we ask when we meet someone new is are you dating anyone?

I spent so many years being asked and prodded about boyfriends and dating. Those questions became so much more important than what I was actually doing with my life. Was I kind? Compassionate? Generous? A good person?

Why are we so obsessed with who we choose to spend our lives with? When did the measure of our worth become attached to whether or not we are in a relationship?

Don’t get me wrong, being in love is amazing. It is one of the best feelings you could ever have and having someone to love and who loves you is so special and can only be described as magical when you find the right person.

However, there is so much more than being in a relationship in this world. There is so much to discover, create and do to only be focused on one aspect of my life.

Let’s talk about the two weeks I spent in Arizona with my family, the first Christmas after my grandfather died. It’s still one of the things I remember most and almost four year later, it warms my heart that we could honour his memory by being together on such a special holiday while we were mourning his loss.

Or let’s talk about my volunteer placement and how I feel so good about giving back to my community and almost nothing in this world gives me as much joy as seeing the look of appreciation and gratitude in the eyes of the people I serve. In my 24 years, nothing has come close to that feeling.

My point is that I am so much more than just this one thing in my life. We all have so much to offer this world that your self-worth shouldn’t be dictated by whether or not you choose to share your life with another person. There is so much to explore and create in this world.

My wish for myself and for everyone out there is that we stop focusing so much on who we are dating and start focusing more on where we are going and how we are getting there. Cause life is one hell of a ride and it would be a shame not to fully enjoy the beauty it has to offer. TC mark

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