I don’t believe in waiting for a new year to make changes, however, I am all for taking the time to assess where you currently are, taking the time to reflect and connect in order to re-ground. Allotting time to reflect is essential for growth it helps us understand what is and what is no longer working in our lives in order to make changes accordingly.
When I look back at this past year and what I expected from the New Year, well little did I know those expectations would change and evolve into something else. You see that’s the thing about making plans in a world in which we are constantly growing. Expecting everything to go according to plan rarely happens. Rather than to go into detail as to what I expected from the new year, I want to touch on the most valuable lesson I am taking into the New Year.
For me, that was respecting and honoring the personal boundaries I have set and expecting those who want to be a part of my life to do the same. This was challenging at times, because sometimes others don’t understand what boundaries are, and interpret boundaries as being mean or high maintenance. The reality is that those individuals haven’t set boundaries of their own and can’t grasp how important it is to respect those boundaries.
It took me a while to understand that respecting boundaries I have set for myself doesn’t make me a mean person it also doesn’t mean I don’t care about anything else but my self. It simply means that I value my time and what I believe in, and if someone can’t respect that, then I simply won’t stand for that. If someone continues to ridicule the boundaries I have set, it’s not that there is something wrong with me, but rather that it stems from their lack of understanding the importance of boundaries.
When we respect boundaries we have set, not only are we staying true to ourselves but we are also opening up relationships with individuals who also understand the importance of respecting boundaries, this allows for deeper lasting connections. In doing so we are also able to let go of those who no longer serve a positive role in our lives. It gives us more time to focus and nourish relationships with those who understand and respect us too.
This year thought me the importance of setting boundaries and staying true to them. The importance of caring for my self and letting go of individuals who don’t respect that. The importance of only allowing people who nourish my soul and in 2019 I won’t accept anything less. I hope you do the same.