1. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t put it in writing. Sooner or later your remarks will accidentally be sent to the wrong person. If you’re angry, wait a full hour before contacting anyone.
2. Find a place to work that pays you equally in dollars and appreciation. If you’re not appreciated at work, make them pay you enough to afford your soul. Staying in a job long term that you hate and where you’re mistreated will make you bitter, insecure and turn you into the person they claim you are. Get out as soon as you can, but try to have something lined up before you quit.
3. Your family is your team. Everyone needs to do their part to keep the team. Even when your sister or brother or parent drives you absolutely crazy and you think they don’t understand you and you wish you could somehow ship them off to live with another family, that family member is a limb in your body that will love you unconditionally. Appreciate family and treat them delicately.
4. If mom is angry, everyone’s life suffers. Listen to her. She’s not steering you in a bad direction. Pick your battles, she’s devoted her life to you and deserves for you to say, “Ok, Mom. I’ll do it,” once in a while instead of saying, “No way!”
5. Prepare for mornings by getting as much stuff done as possible the night before. Pick out your clothes. Make your lunch. Lay out your wallet, phone and keys. Don’t assume you’ll remember every last detail the next day.
6. Some women work because they love what they do. Some work to put food on the table. Some work to keep their minds occupied. There is nothing wrong with working. Also, staying at home is a job too.
7. There are other things in life to strive for other than getting married and having babies. There is no sense in spending too much energy in chasing after people. If a person doesn’t know your value, move on. You don’t have time to convince them.
8. Long-term goals are met with hard work and fortitude. Great opportunities don’t come around often – they are the result of putting your time in and sticking with the tough projects when there seems no end.
9. Befriend the people you see for most of the day. You won’t like everyone and you don’t need to be best friends with everyone. Be kind to them anyway. You will likely see your workmates more than you see your family. Get to know them. They will look after you when you’re away from your family.
10. Multitasking is an art form performed by serious superhero ninja women. It is something that is learned with great patience, resilience and skill. Take note of moms around you to see how it is done.
11. To get something done, give it to a busy person. If you have 15 things to accomplish in one day, it forces you to be organized. If you have 1 thing to accomplish and no schedule, there is a very good chance it will never get done.
12. Nobody wants to go to sleep early to get up early, but you do it because it leads to better things for yourself, your children and the overall well-being of your family’s future. Sacrifices and compromise are the keys to making things work. Learn what you are willing to give up and what you can’t live without.
13. A mom’s love is unconditional. Just because she may not be there to get you on the bus or greet you when you walk in the door from school doesn’t mean she’s stopped worrying about you, loving you or feeling guilty about not being with you.
14. It’s important to have your own life, interests and ability to financially support yourself. You never know what will happen in the future, so self-reliance is an essential skill. Love and plan accordingly.