(March 21st to April 19th)
Because you won’t let yourself find your soulmate. Instead, you’re convinced that until you’ve done a certain amount of things independently (traveled here, worked there) you are not allowed to be in love. You haven’t yet realized that you can have a partner and still have a very independent life.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Because you are convinced that your path to love has to follow a specific formula. Instead of embracing the fact that love is completely unpredictable and random and bizarre, you want it to make 100% sense and you want it to follow a specific set of rules, but it never will. And until you make peace with that, you won’t find your soulmate.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Because you think you don’t deserve love. Even if on the surface you are warm and open and fun, internally you have managed to convince yourself that you are not good enough to have that deep love that everyone else has. So you find yourself self-sabotaging any romance or potential romance that is making you happy, because you’re more scared of experiencing that intense happiness than you are of being alone.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Because you’re still being weighed down by past pain, of your own accord. You haven’t yet learned to deal with your pain and then let it go. Instead, you have a tendency to live in past hurt and dwell in it without ever dealing with it, so there is no room in your heart for new love because so much of it is taken up by toxic thoughts and feelings of past pains.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Because you don’t know how to apologize or swallow your pride in your relationships. You have ended a lot of wonderful things you had going on because you were too stubborn to admit when you were wrong, or you tried to control everything, or you couldn’t figure out how to leave your ego at the door. Until you start managing your pride and working on humility, you’re going to have a difficult time finding that soulmate.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Because you pull out the problems in any relationship that you’re in. And you use that as an excuse for why you should end things (just to protect yourself or keep yourself from getting hurt first). Instead of accepting that no relationship is perfect, you’re convinced that your soulmate needs to meet every requirement you have and that the relationship must be flawless – which is impossible. Until you figure out the balance between having standards and understanding that love will have flaws, you won’t find your soulmate.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Because you don’t know how to prioritize your relationship. It’s not that you’re supposed to drop everything else in your life the minute you have a significant other. But you’re so worried about pleasing everybody and keeping everything the way it is that you don’t know how to adapt when a new love comes into your life. Instead of realizing that there is a healthy balance that can occur when a relationship becomes a part of your life, you end up neglecting it or avoiding it out of fear, which ultimately makes your partner feel unloved or unwanted and leads to them walking away.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Because you spend all your time thinking about everybody else’s relationships instead of just being present in your own. You’re constantly comparing your love life to everyone else’s, instead of just focusing on your life and what makes you happy. Until you can stop looking at your love life only in relation to everyone else’s, you’re not going to have much luck.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Because you’re too comfortable being passive. You don’t want to act, you don’t want to make the big decisions, you don’t want to put yourself out there. You just want love to happen to you, because you’re only comfortable reacting to things instead of also learning how to sometimes instigate things on your own.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Because you compartmentalize love. Instead of letting love and dating and relationships blend naturally into the other areas of your life – family, work, hobbies, etc – you just want to keep it separated because it’s easier to control that way. Once you learn that love is supposed to weave into your life instead of being a standalone category, you’ll have a lot more luck finding your soulmate.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Because it’s impossible to find your soulmate when you’ve put a steel wall around your heart. You are scared of getting hurt, which is understandable. But everyone is scared of getting hurt. And the reason why so many of your friends have found their soulmate and you haven’t is because they’ve been willing to put their heart on the line, to open up and go out on a limb and risk being rejected. Once you do that, everything will change. It might not work immediately – you very well may experience rejection and heartache and pain. But in all that, love is waiting somewhere. You just have to go for it.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Because you avoid big decisions. You avoid going after what you want, you avoid serious talks, and you avoid actually trying to figure out what you do want. Once you set aside some time in your life to reflect, and learn about yourself, and figure out what it is you are looking for, you will get that much closer to finding your soulmate.