If you’re an independent woman or have been called or perceived as independent by different people in your life, I want you to know that there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s incredible that you’re able to take good care of yourself, your needs, and many different responsibilities on your own. But when it comes to your love life and the different men you interact with, you should also know that it’s okay to be an independent woman who lets a guy take the lead sometimes.
You don’t have to do everything on your own. You’re not meant to carry everything that comes your way. It’s fine to let a guy take over certain things. Let him take the lead, plan different dates, and share new ideas and experiences with you. Allowing these things to happen won’t diminish the success and shine you’ve worked hard to earn and maintain. Consider letting someone else do nice things for you for a change. It’s worth it. I have to admit, it’s nice receiving help from a guy when it’s offered. There have been times in my own life when I’ve met different guys who offered to take the lead and help me out when I really needed it, and I wouldn’t let them. I was afraid of appearing needy and weak. I could take care of different things on my own, but not without getting tired and feeling burned out at times. I eventually learned that it’s easier to accept help when you need it. If this is something new for you—accepting help, I mean—then you’re not alone. I’m learning to adjust too.
This isn’t about gender roles.
This isn’t about who makes more money.
This isn’t about who has a college degree or more than one or no degree at all.
This isn’t about who has more titles or status or influence.
And this isn’t about being a strong or capable woman.
This is about something more, something deeper. This is about you being open and honest about accepting help while admitting that there are some things you can’t do on your own.
I know you’re a smart, successful, brilliant, and beautiful woman who can do a lot of different things by yourself, but you don’t have to. Do you really want to be the one who’s always trying to take care of everything by yourself? Navigating things like expensive car repairs, home renovations, killing an enormous spider, or figuring out how to effectively work and communicate with other men at your job? Listen, it’s okay to let a guy take the lead on these things. Guys need to feel needed too. So the next time you meet a guy with good intentions, who genuinely wants to help you or take you out or make things easier for you, consider giving him a chance. Let him address the mechanic who might be trying to overcharge you for a car repair. Allow him to hold the door open and carry your bags after you’ve had a long and stressful day at work. Please let him pay for the date when he offers, without any interference from you or your wallet. Consider letting him drive while you sit back and relax in the passenger seat. And just breathe for a moment and try to enjoy the help you’re receiving. Let the guy lead as you two move forward together. It’s great to have help when you need it.