7 Key Signals To Look For When You’re Wondering If She Likes You


Believe it or not but you might have missed many opportunities with cute girls just because you didn’t notice the subtle signals they gave you. Let’s shine some light on many of the cues women give men and how to know if a girl likes you.

If a girl is into you, she will show you her attraction through certain behaviors and body language. Most men are clueless about those signals. But actually, it is quite easy to interpret them.

Women Give You Signals

Most women enjoy being looked at by an interesting man. It gives us confirmation that all the work that went into looking good paid off. But most women tend to ignore their feelings and look away immediately. This has nothing to do with disinterest! We also feel uncertain when meeting someone interesting. And we also want to avoid coming across as easy at all costs.

An interested woman will give you feedback in the form of behavioral changes – subtle cues to communicate with you on a non-verbal level. Every girl behaves differently. Keep an eye on her and watch her movements and gesticulations. But don’t stare at her! A soft gaze will give you all the information you need.

1. Eye Contact

Eye contact is one of the clearest signs she can give you.

It doesn’t matter where you are. Maybe you are at a club, in a library or even in a supermarket. If she is looking you directly in the eyes, she wants to get to know you.

Use eye contact to flirt with women! If you notice that a woman is looking you directly in your eyes, do the same for a few seconds. Then look away and try to find her eye-contact again later.

When you look at her, try to smile with your eyes. It’s actually quite easy. Bring yourself in a positive mood. Think about her, how her voice or how her giggling will sound. How her skin feels like, how she smells or even how her lips will feel.

Such feelings will make you more comfortable and you’ll be able to express your sexuality better. Repeat finding her eye-contact for three or four times.

Meanwhile enjoy the situation and have fun! Eye-contact builds a connection between two people without talking. With this technique, you build up tension. Both of you will feel it. After the third or fourth time, you should smile at her. If she smiles back – go over to her immediately!

2. Mouth

If she knows you can see her, she might use a straw to drink her cocktail. Or she is licks her lips or bites her bottom lip. All of these are signs that she is flirting with you.

3. Laughing

When she is talking a lot, she feels good by your side. Laughing is also a clear sign! If a woman likes a man, she tends to laugh more and louder than usually. Everything is funny, whether you are joking or not.

4. Playing With Her Hair

All of you have seen this before: A woman is talking to a man and twirls her hair constantly. There are even more variations of playing with hair. Some women always shake their head a little. Some run their fingers through their hair or try to look more mysterious by ruffling their hair. (creating an ‘out of bed’ look) All of these variations have the same meaning. She likes you!

5. Positioning And Touching

Pay attention to her position. Interested women want to be closer to you. Her whole body will turn towards you, so she can see and hear you better. When you sit at a table with her, she will often sit with her elbows on the table holding up her head to be nearer.

When you stand at the bar, she wants to be as close as possible. Every message you give her or she is giving you will be the perfect opportunity for her to stand closer to you.

A woman who is interested ignores personal space. She wants physical contact! With physical contact, I mean short touches or incidental contacts on your arm or shoulder. If she always finds a reason to touch you, it’s a sure sign she is into you.

6. Nervousness

Nervousness is a clear sign that she likes you.

Usually, people need an outlet for their nervousness. In most cases that means they do stuff with their hands. She could be playing with a lighter, the coaster, a straw, or even a napkin.

For example, a friend of mine turns into a chain smoker when she is having a nice date with a man she likes. Normally she just smokes two or three cigarettes a day.

7. Fake Helplessness

Sometimes, women do funny things and get fanciful to get what they want.

All of you guys have this protective instinct. Some of you more, some of you less. But most guys react when a girl seems helpless. Imagine a girl standing at the bar wanting to get a drink. The waiter didn’t see her and she seems nerved and frustrated.

Another example: She can´t seem to find her jacket in the wardrobe. She searches and searches, but her jacket is missing. Or she finds her jacket, but she is too small to get it.

Or she wants to smoke a cigarette, but her lighter won’t work. She tries and tries, but it won’t light.

One last example: She is searching for something in her pocket but can’t find it.

In all of these situations, we seem helpless or in other words: we want to seem helpless! The examples above were all things that I or friends of mine did to get in contact with men.

Guys, we live in the 21st century! We can help ourselves and don’t wait until a man comes to help us. You can be really sure, that she is just playing clumsy or helpless when you already had eye-contact several times or talked to each other before.

All of this will happen near you, so she can be sure you see her acting all helpless. Go over and “help her”! Then start a conversation.

What To Do After She Shows Interest?

Don’t be afraid or nervous. You have seen that she is interested in talking to you! Approach her immediately!

It doesn’t matter if she is alone or with some friends. Mostly her friends will find an excuse to go or she will distance herself with you from them.

Furthermore, don’t worry about what to say to her. Honestly, it doesn’t really matter what you say as long as you don’t try to be cool or clever. You’ve already built up a connection with her. So just keep it simple. What about “ Hi. How’s your day been?”

Practice, Practice, Practice

From now on watch out for all the signals we try to give you guys. It’s not a big deal if you misinterpret signs, especially if it’s a single sign. You will become much better over time and a previously unknown world will unfold in front of you! Just don’t be afraid of the setbacks in the beginning. Always remember: the difference between a successful man and an unsuccessful one is that the successful man has been rejected a lot and has learned from it! Believe me, no one is born a master! Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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