Why Playing The Victim Card Is Ruining Your Life

A woman in a black hat is facing the river and forest in Mactaggart Sanctuary.
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The get out of responsibility card. Or what I like to call it the “victim card.” It seems as if every millennial today has implanted this mentality in their heads, thinking that it is an easy way to get through life. We’ve all crossed paths before at one point or another with someone who knows how to play this card very well. The card that allows you to blame your current situations or feelings on others.

Now let me say this for the people in the back: please stop playing the victim to circumstances you’ve created.

As I always say you have the power to change your life at any given moment. If you don’t like something, make the decision to turn things around. Sure, it’s easy to slide through life by blaming others and always playing the victim. You are never going to grow as a person if you just sit there and dwell in your problems. Especially problems that you have control over. I get it, there are things you can’t change. Things you can’t control, but as for the things you can fix. Get up and fix them.

The issue with constantly playing the victim is that if you live your whole life blaming others for your problems, you will never be happy; because all you’re doing is pulling negativity in your life. Once you learn to take accountability and understand people aren’t out to get you, I promise your life will become different.

No one is sabotaging your happiness but you. So stop dancing with the devil and then complaining that you’re in hell.

I get it. Life isn’t fair at times. People aren’t perfect. Thing suck sometimes.

But life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change.

If you keep thinking people are in your way of your goals and success. Trust me when I say, you will never move forward in life because misery loves company.

I promise, once you take responsibility of your life, you will be able to take control of your life. Accepting and learning from your mistakes, instead of denying them or blaming them on others will lead you to growth and improvement. Playing the victim only effects you and no one else. You are the only person stopping yourself from the life you want, not others. So don’t make excuses as why you can’t change things. One more time for the people in the back: please stop playing the victim to circumstances you’ve created. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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