I know what you’re thinking. You had a baby in your early twenties and you got married too. You see your friends on social media living their best lives by traveling the world, going to multiple concerts a year, and living the single life without a care in the world. You start to feel bad because that is something you always wanted to do when you got to that part of life. Well, I’m here to tell you don’t feel bad for starting life early and don’t think that this is the end. Why? Because your life hasn’t ended. It’s only begun.
First things first, you got pregnant and had a baby. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I got pregnant when I was twenty years and didn’t have my son until I was twenty-one (I was pregnant when my birthday passed). People always asked me, “Why didn’t I wait to have kids?” or they would tell me, “You should be out there living life at your age.” Let me tell you something I wouldn’t trade my son for anything in the world. I enjoy being a mother at a young because you learn so much. Since having my baby, I have never loved anything as much as I love him. Being a mother is amazing. So don’t let anybody tell you that you became a mother too early and that you haven’t lived your life because trust me, being a mother is more important than going to parties and getting drunk at every single one of them. I’m saying don’t go to parties with your friends because even mommas deserve a little me time. What I am saying is don’t let people make you feel bad for your choice in becoming a mother. It’s your life and you do what you want.
So you got married in your early twenties and that’s okay too. You found the love of your life and couldn’t wait to marry them. Congrats! There will always be the people who ask you why did get married now, why did you choose the person you’re going to marry, why didn’t you wait until you got married, and is this person really important to you? If you know in your heart and soul that this person is the one, then go ahead and spend the rest of your life with them. The both of you will have amazing adventures together now and forever. So marry that man or woman and don’t let people put you down for not being single and exploring the different fish in the sea. If you are happy with them, then be happy.
Having a baby and getting married aren’t bad things in life but there will always be people out there who judge on your life choices. What you decide to do at the ages of twenty, twenty-one, twenty-two, and beyond is really not anyone’s business but your own. So go ahead and do whatever you feel like doing. Your life is your own. So live how you want.