I’m 19 And I’ve Never Dated Anyone Before

image - Flickr / Bethany Bailey
image – Flickr / Bethany Bailey

Yes, I am 19-years-old and have never dated. Anyone. No, I will never know what it is like to have that puppy love relationship in high school, or to be the girl with all of the “experience.” Even though it is embarrassing to tell people sometimes, I’m also proud of it. Of course the whole point of dating is to find out what you want in a partner, but to me it seems like it can also be a total waste of time if you’re not careful. Sure, I’ve kissed boys before and have had guys ask me out. But honestly, it just hasn’t felt right to say yes yet.

I know we are all different and like different things, but I am just not a hook up type of girl. I just don’t see the fun in it. This is one of the biggest reasons I have turned down guys, because that’s all they would ask of me. What’s the point in that? What happened to the guy taking the girl out to a nice restaurant, and having that thing called a conversation?

I will also admit that I can be picky with guys. Very picky actually. But honestly, looks is probably the last thing I look for. I believe that you shouldn’t find someone who is the best, but who makes you a better person. First off, why would you date someone who you could not see yourself marrying? I know that jumps a little too far, but it is crazy how many times I’ve heard someone talk about their boyfriend/girlfriend and say, “He/She is just for now.” Don’t you feel like you are wasting your time?

I wonder every day when I will finally meet someone. I have thought multiple times that I have, and it just never worked out. It’s a tough feeling. Especially at my age now, sometimes I feel like it will never happen. But on the other hand, I feel like I’ve had the opportunity to do so much being single. I go to school far away from home, and I am even moving to Florida soon, just because I can. And the best part is that I don’t have to worry about what anyone thinks of that. I feel like I have also had the chance to fall in love with myself. I’ve learned so much about who I am these past few years, because I was only worrying about me. I know my soul mate is out there somewhere, and that he’ll be with me soon. TC mark

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    Reblogged this on mycrazylifeunmasked and commented:
    I don’t know….this one just totally seems to fit for me. I’m going to be 19 in a little over a month. I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’ve never been on a real actual legitimate date. As much as I dislike that sometimes, I’m happy with that.

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