The truth is that narcissists are very adept at impression management – in managing the ways others perceive them. They will appear to praise their victims in public, all while criticizing and demeaning them in private. They will provoke their victims into emotionally reacting – and they will use their reactions to the abuse to depict them as “unhinged.”
She’ll leave when she’s finally had enough. And when she walks away, she’ll walk away for good.
Ask yourself: which moments am I romanticizing? Which moments am I forgetting? I’ll bet that if you look closely, you won’t just remember those romantic trips and dates, but also the crazymaking arguments preceding them. If you reevaluate all those times they bought you flowers and gifts, you’ll also remember the countless times you cried yourself to sleep, trying to get them to understand your point of view.
The narcissistic female’s rage is not unlike the narcissistic man’s in intensity, but because of social stigma surrounding female anger, the narcissistic female may communicate her rage in more subtle ways.
“Love isn’t supposed to be painful. Let yourself feel whatever it is you feel and get through it – there is joy to be had. Loneliness is not a good reason to invite toxic people back into your life.”
We all know that malignant narcissists like to provoke, taunt and destroy people – all with clean hands. But what are some of the sneakiest ways they manipulate and terrorize their victims? I asked over a hundred survivors what the most insidious way a narcissist has abused them and the answers were shocking.
No Contact is the key that locks out that person from ever entering our heart, mind, and spirit in any palpable way again.
They engage in what I like to call “coded language.”
These women may be browbeaten, bullied, shamed, criticized, disempowered in many ways, by many different people – but one thing they all have in common is their ability to rise again from the ashes of their adversity.
Most “addictions” aren’t dangerous on the surface, but they have far more sinister implications when we look deeper.