Never Beg For Their Love
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Never Beg For Their Love

Never beg for love. Don’t do it. Don’t beg for someone to love you or be with you or spend time with you. Never beg for their time or their affection. Don’t beg for their commitment and attention. You should never, ever have to beg someone who loves you to stay with you. You should never have to chase someone because the one who loves you won’t run. The one who loves you really loves you, would never let you beg because they will give themselves and their time freely. You will never doubt their love. It was never a question. You were always the answer.

You are not a dog. You don’t roll over on command or play fetch. Then why would you beg? It is degrading and it is demeaning and it is not human. Stop letting yourself be disrespected. Begging is disrespecting yourself. It means you have to have it, that you can’t live without it. Lies. You lived without them before and you will live after them. Begging means you do something with a sense of urgency. It also means that you are asking permission for something. What exactly are you asking permission for? Say this out loud: “I am asking for your permission to stay with me. I really need you to stay because I am a beggar (which just so you know, means that you are impoverished with no resources to keep you going)” So is that what you have reduced yourself to? Being a beggar for love and affection?

Are you so scared of being alone that you will accept being treated as less than you are? That you will get on your knees and beg someone to love you? Will you seriously stay in a horrible relationship because you think that being hurt and disrespected is better than being alone? Think about that. You are literally begging someone who doesn’t love you to stay with you because you don’t want to be alone. Yeah….about that. Listen to me, you are worth so much more than that. Get up off your knees and stand your ground. Use your voice to scream your worth instead of using it to beg. Be the first to walk away. Show them your feet are used for walking not for chasing. Your hands are used to pick out something nice for yourself, not to grab them and make them stay.

Your self-worth and your self-respect belong to you and no one else. If you are going to beg, use the phrase, “I beg to differ. I absolutely DO deserve to be treated amazing. And I beg your pardon, but you have no right to make me feel the way you do.” If you must beg, do it that way. Not to make someone stay. Not to make someone give you affection or love. But to make them realize that you won’t allow them to reduce you to your knees or to tears or to disrespectful begging. Letting someone go that is bad for you doesn’t mean you hate them. It doesn’t even necessarily mean you don’t respect them. It just means you respect yourself more, and that’s never a bad thing.

You are strong. You are powerful. You are brave. You are amazing. You are beautiful. You are not a dog. The only obedience you owe is to yourself.

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