If you’re like me your internal dialogue gets the best of you sometimes. Or quite possibly, ALL OF THE TIME. If you’re like me, you constantly doubt yourself. You ask, am I good enough? Am I smart enough to accomplish the goals I dream about? Do I have the internal fortitude to push on in the face of adversity? Will those around me accept what I have done and who I am? Am I worthy of love, trust and affection?
And if you’re like me, far too often your internal answers have been…NO. But if you’re like me, you’re also a rotten liar. You’re one of the rottenest kind of liars. Because like me, you’ve been lying to yourself your whole life. You’ve been lying to the only person that has the ability to get you where you want to be. There is nobody more important to you, than you.
I mean think about that for a minute. You were born exactly how you were meant to be born. On that day the universe came together in a profoundly unique way that has never nor ever will be replicated throughout all of history. Literally there is nobody like you. You are the perfect combination of you. You are an original masterpiece that can never be replicated. You are perfection.
Your body isn’t as sexy as Brad or Angelina’s? The curves that the media tells you aren’t in the right places? The mole on the right side of your chest? That slightly crooked smile that exposes your teeth that you constantly wish was straight? Your pudgy little belly that never seems to go flat? That round jiggly man butt? They are ALL perfect! Every last part of you. Perfect.
But that’s not what society tells us. Shit, it’s not even what our parents tell us. Your grades weren’t good enough. That golf swing that makes the ball slice to the right every other time just won’t cut it. You’re too damn clumsy because you spilled milk at the kitchen table.
You’re an idiot that says inappropriate stuff at the most inappropriate times. Parents, siblings, family, friends, bosses, coworkers, that crazy guy that talks to himself walking down the street…They tell us over and over again how imperfect we are. And if you’re like me they’ve told you so often that you’ve started to believe it sometimes. Then you look in the mirror and your inner dialogue repeats those awful lies. Internal lies which are then spit back out and projected on those you love the most. Those that see the perfectness in you instead of the societal falsely labeled imperfections.
If you’re like me, there’s just no way you could believe that nonsense. There must be something wrong with my lover if she sees so much good in me? Clearly her ability to see me is skewed by something weird. And the lie perpetuates itself. And if you’re as blind as me you let her go. Time and time again. Because you believed that lie more than you believed the love she showed you. So if you’re like me, listen up and listen good. Because I’m done lying. You should be too.
Listen up. Yes, you out there reading my ramble. You, Ms. Green eyed beauty. You, Mr. middle child living in the shadows of your older and younger brothers. You, chubby little man that stares back in the mirror constantly disappointed with how you look. You. You are perfect. In every way. There is literally nothing you should change.
With one exception. Stop lying!
The moment that you start telling yourself the truth is the moment you become free. It’s a cliché but dammit its true! And what is the truth? The truth is that you are completely and utterly the most amazing human being that has ever walked the planet. You’re doing what nobody else has done nor can ever do. And by God its friggin beautiful. Its art. Millions of things only you can do. The world needs you. Not a skinnier you. Not a smarter you. Not a funnier or better you. The world needs you. Exactly as you are. Right this very moment.
You are integral to this world. You are important. You are necessary. Look at yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself. I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And Gosh darnit, people like me! Because they do! And you are good enough! The only one capable of telling you otherwise is you.
Push forward. Live your dreams. Do whatever your heart tells you to do. And do it the way that only you can do it. Do it for yourself. Do it for us. You and I, we both need you.