I’ve always been a bit reluctant to let go when it comes to my friendships, especially toxic ones. I’ve always felt the need to go the extra mile to maintain my friendships because I’ve known my friends for years or because they share a lot of the same values as me. But I have learned that it doesn’t matter how long you have known someone, how many great memories you share, how many values you have in common, or how many things you’ve experienced together — sometimes you just have to let go.
You have to let go, because you’re the one always texting first. You have to let go, because you’re the one making plans to meet up for breakfast or lunch, just for them to cancel on you at the last minute. You have to let go, because you’re the one doing all the visiting when they won’t even take 30 minutes out of their not-so-busy schedule to come and see your new apartment and it’s been six months since you’ve moved in. You have to let go, because they never pitch in to celebrate your little victories with you or even the big ones, like when you graduated from university. You have to let go, because you’re only good enough when they need something from you. You have to let go, because you cannot be the only one making all the effort.
Take time to sit back, reflect on, and evaluate your friendships. Take time to delete those expired friendships that no longer serve you and the person you’re becoming. Take time to meet new people and make new friends. And most importantly, take time to cultivate wholesome and meaningful friendships.
Friendships, like any other relationship, is a two-way street. Don’t find yourself being the only one riding.