1. Someone who is your biggest fan.
Your significant other should be someone who supports you in everything you do. Someone who is proud to have you by their side through the good and the bad. He or she should be the person holding up posters in a stadium full of people rooting you on. This person will want to show you off to the world. Your happiness is their happiness. One believes in you even when you do not believe in yourself.
2. The ability to be yourself.
You should never have to change yourself to please someone else. People change when they are ready to do so. The person you date will overlook your flaws; they won’t try to change you. One will accept you for who you are and what you are not. Remember you cannot rely on someone else to bring you happiness. It happens from within first.
3. Clear and effective communication.
Someone who is willing to call you out on your bullshit without fear of retaliation. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to speak to someone in a calm, rational, and logical manner. Your bond should be built on teamwork and seeing your partner as your equal. You should be able to express your opinions, emotions, and problems without fear of judgment.
4. Trust and in turn, loyalty.
Your partner should be able to hand you his or her phone for a day without having anything to hide from you. Don’t be secretive unless you’re planning them a surprise party. Secrets prevent people from trusting one another. You and your partner should have mutual respect for one another.
5. A honest person.
Honesty is the best policy. Be reliable. Admit to your mistakes. Every human being makes mistakes and there is nothing wrong with that either. Learn to be straightforward and tell the truth. Do not waste your time speaking poorly about others behind their back. Gossiping is an unattractive quality in any person.
6. A good listener.
If someone truly cares about you, then one will be willing to listen to you. One does not necessarily even need to give you advice or solve your problems for you. You should be able to vent to your person when you need consolation.
7. A great sense of humor.
Life is short and there is beauty in not taking yourself too seriously. You should be able to laugh at the ridiculous and silly things you do. Be able to take a joke and not take everything to heart.
8. Someone full of kindness.
In my opinion, this is probably one of the most undervalued qualities in a human being. It’s such an attractive trait to see someone else genuinely care about another person’s well being. Be friendly, generous, and considerate.
9. True compatibility.
The person you date should share the same core values as you. You should be intellectually, sexually, and emotionally attracted to this person especially if you want to be together in the long run. There’s more to a relationship than just sharing some mutual hobbies, you should care about their future aspirations, how they treat others, and whether or not they have a desire to have a family.
10. The ability to maintain independence.
It’s essential to have and maintain your own life outside of your relationship. In every relationship, you give a piece of yourself to that person, but make sure you do not lose your sense of self. Being your own person is important too. You should have your own friends, hobbies, and passions and your partner should want the same too.