Any kind of love you’re receiving from someone is good as long as you’re receiving it, right? Who cares as long as you’re hearing those three little words every girl wishes for, right? Feeling loved must equate to being in love.
But how many times in the past have I loved someone just because they vocalized their love for me early on? And how many times did I neglect to find out what I actually want out of a relationship? What will make me love a man as much as he loves me? I am finally stopping to think about that.
Well I now know what I want, and what you should want too: a fixer.
1. Someone who is going to work with me to fix my problems, our problems.
2. someone who is going to fix the toilet when it won’t stop running.
3. Someone who is going to fix the dent I made in the wall when I was trying to DIY something, even though we all know I am physically incapable of DIYing anything.
4. Someone who is going to fix things around the house for me, but more importantly, someone who will be patient when it was my fault for messing it up in the first place.
5. Someone to fix the tears falling from my face after having a bad day. Not someone who impatiently critiques where I went wrong. Not someone who pinpoints the reason for my failures and barks 12 suggestions I should immediately go do to solve the problem. I’m smart. I work hard. I’ll figure out a way to make amends to whatever I’ve screwed up at work or in my day-to-day.
6. Someone who knows I’m smart. He knows that I am fully capable of actually fixing the day’s problems. He believes in me, and has full confidence that I’ll solve the problem on my own, but knows his job is to fix my tears in ways that are not so black and white.
7. Someone who makes dinner reservations, because he knows lean cuisines never dry tears from a bad day.
8. Someone with Stubhub and Ticketmaster’s websites readily available because there is nothing that makes me happier than having plans, any plans.
9. Someone who has flowers in hand because what girl still has tears when her man shows up with Tuesday flowers?
10. Someone who knows exactly what will make things better. For me.
11. Someone who is going to fix my weaknesses. Someone who will fix my insecurities, making those insecurities a source of confidence instead.
12. Someone who will not only let me be a fixer, but wants me to be his fixer too.
My past relationships? We will call them my non-fixers, and guess what? They’ll be wonderful fixers for some new girl. They’ll meet a woman they want to fix things for. They’ll meet a woman, and immediately know exactly how to fix every problem she has. Their new girl will want 12 suggestions she can use to immediately solve her day’s problems. Their new girl will then love that he wants to stay in with her, and not face the crowds at the local restaurants and bars. And that woman will be so happy and grateful and passionately in love, because she found her fixer.