It’s Been A Year Since You Hurt Me And This Is What I’ve Learned

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It has been a year and you still cross my mind at times.

I told you once that I believe every person comes into my life for a reason and you were no different.

For a long time I have wanted to write about the impact I chose to learn from the situation that occurred between us, but did not know the proper words to express it.

It has been a year and I finally know what I want to say.

You hurt me incredibly. Not because you did not feel the same way, but because you repeatedly showed the lack of respect you held for me. I was too blind to see it at the time. I am wiser now.

It has been a year and the only regret I have through everything is not telling you that I hoped you could become the person I saw you could be, because he would be undeniably amazing.

When you can see a person’s potential, and what they choose to settle as, it is hard to bear. People make the choice to be average, when they have the opportunity to be extraordinary.

Those who choose to play mind games or show cruelty towards other are the ones who need the most kindness. The most love, encouragement, compliments, and honesty to allow them to see all of the potential they hold, hidden from their view, but visible to everyone else.

It has been a year and I have learned so much.

I have learned that your actions were not a reflection of me, but of you.

I have learned that my parents do want the very best for me. I choose them now over any person.

I have learned to recognize the emotion you brought out in me as anxiousness. Not the good kind.

It has been a year and I have learned that power does not lie with the person who plays the game the best, but the person who chooses not to play at all. When you do not care about who holds the power in a relationship is when you are the most powerful.

I have learned to walk away sooner. Most people do not deserve the chances I choose to give them.

I have learned that I have and I am still becoming the person I have always wanted to be.

It has been a year and I have learned that people show their true colors not through words, but through actions. Seeing through people is easy after you obtain this knowledge.

I have learned I really do love myself. Your actions could tear down any person’s self esteem. To take advantage of a person’s feelings and understanding is a cruel act, but allowed me to behold a strength and wisdom I now cherish.

I have learned that it is okay to make mistakes, especially in relationships. That is how you learn. Perfection does not exist. I am ready to make some more. Do not let your past dictate your future, but guide you.

It has been a year and I have learned that being kind is being honest. There is incredible strength and respect in both.

I learned that it is okay not to be worried about being in a relationship. The rules society holds are often of our own creation. They only exist if you let them.

I learned that no person’s problem is better or worse than what another being is going through.

I learned that it is not always my fault. I am way too hard on myself.

I learned that the outcome of life is due to the choices you make. The experiences you have affect you in the way in which you choose to perceive them.

I learned that a negative experience can leave a positive impact.

It was not because of you that I learned these lessons, but because I made the choice to learn them.

I am not a better person because of you, but because of me.

Because I chose to be.

And for that, I will be forever proud of myself.

I won the game you loved to play with me because I threw away the rulebook and became the woman I always dreamed of being.

A prize that is priceless.

I cannot hold any bitterness towards you because all the reasons I found you came into my life are lessons I would never wish to give back.

By giving them back I would not be who I choose to be today.

I wish you all the best. I hope you found the reason I had a part in your life as well.

I hope you could become the person I saw you could be, because he would be undeniably amazing. TC mark

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