1. Stay just vulnerable enough to accept real love when it comes along and just guarded enough to protect yourself from the assholes.
2. Remember that you have no obligation to anyone but yourself. If you don’t feel comfortable with him, if he’s not absolutely rocking your world, even if something just doesn’t feel right — Do not ever apologize for declining or ending it all together.
3. Realize that you actually are in control of your own fate. If you keep attracting the wrong people, then pay close attention to the energy you’re putting out. Those who truly believe they deserve the best will get exactly that. So if you haven’t been getting what you want, maybe it’s time to look within.
4. Don’t worry about following the “rules.” How can we all be completely different yet think of relationships as “one size fits all?” If it feels right to you, then it is right. Go ahead and listen to the experts and read all the articles you want, but your own inner voice should always speak loudest.
5. Remind yourself that trying to conform to someone has never worked before, and it won’t this time either. Be honest and upfront about who you really are from the very beginning because it all comes out in the end.
6. Forget your “type” or what you think is your type. We’re often drawn to the most comfortable and least threatening option, but don’t be afraid to stray from what you normally go for (especially if it hasn’t worked out thus far.) Open your mind a bit, think outside the box, and you may be pleasantly surprised.
7. When you’re in a relationship, try your best to not lose touch with your good friends or family members. No matter how wonderful he may be, a boyfriend shouldn’t try to play every role in your life.
8. Stop taking things so damn personally. If it doesn’t end up working out, know that it’s not a reflection of you as a person. Rejection can often feel like a completely personal attack, but it’s usually more about his issues than yours. And if it is about you, then just chalk it up to a bad match and move on.
9. Never be ashamed to admit that you date online. Everyone is doing it, and the ones who say they aren’t are lying.
10. Date only to enhance your life. Not to replace something that’s missing, not to serve as a distraction for those things you don’t want to face, and not because you feel it’s something you’re just supposed to do. A healthy relationship will only last if you’re happy and complete without it.