To The Girl Who’s Just Been Rejected

To The Girl Who's Just Been Rejected: You Don't Have To 'Get Over It' Right Away
Nilton Oliveira

When he rejects you, you’re allowed to not be okay. You’re allowed to not have any response back to him. And after the shock of your rejection, you’re allowed to put on your favorite pair of pajamas, make some hot coffee and curl up with a big soft blanket on your couch while watching sappy movies about the heroine finding love and wishing it was you.

You’re allowed to cry your eyes out while watching marathons of those sappy movies about love. You’re allowed to wonder if there is anyone out there who wants to be with you. After all, being rejected can make your heart ache because you had feelings for someone who didn’t want to return those same feelings. Being rejected for the millionth time can make you wonder if anyone will ever want to fall in love with you. It makes you wonder if you will be single for the rest of your life. Being rejected hurts, but it’s a part of life that everyone has to experience.

When someone rejects you, it can feel like your whole world is falling apart. It can be hard to see them continue to be happy while you sit around and wonder what is so wrong with you that they didn’t like you back, or want you as you wanted them. Rejection can be hard, but it’s important to know that it is okay to be sad and upset. Don’t let anyone tell you that you need to just get over it and move on because those feelings you had aren’t something that you can just get rid of in a minute.

Your heart was beginning to fall for someone and then all of a sudden, those feelings you had for that special someone have left you confused. You started falling for someone because you thought that they were feeling all the same feelings you were feeling. But in the end, they didn’t end up feeling the same way you did.

When you have been rejected, it is also important to understand that you don’t owe them anything. You don’t owe them an answer after they tell you they don’t want you. But if you want to answer them it’s okay to have a response. But when you respond back, you have to remember to stay calm and civilly replay to them. Don’t let your confusion, sadness, and maybe anger replay back because acting as if he owed you his feelings in return isn’t the answer. He doesn’t have to return your feelings, just like you don’t owe him anything after he rejects you. But just because he doesn’t return the same feelings doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care for you.

Rejection can be a bitter pill to swallow, especially when you had strong feelings for someone. But rejection can also help you understand that not everyone is meant to be with each other. The truth of the matter is, is that the guy who just rejected you wasn’t supposed to be part of your love story. Yes, he was brought into your life for a reason, he is or was meant to be a part of your story. After all, he all of a sudden showed up in your life, maybe when you needed him most, or maybe one day he was just there.

You liked him because he was new, he was someone who could put a smile on your face. He was someone who made the whole room feel less empty. He was there when you needed someone to talk to about an assignment in your class. He was there when all you wanted to do was to talk to someone so the boredom would stop setting.

But he wasn’t always there; he was there for you as a friend, that’s part of the reason you began to fall for him in more than just a friendly way. But don’t let that friendship slip away just because he doesn’t return the same feelings because he was always a great friend to you, and that’s why you liked him. That’s why you allowed him to come into your life. And this is why yes maybe your rejection hurts right now, but it will begin to hurt less as you continue to keep living your life with or without him in it.

He cared about you enough to tell you the truth, so yes, you’re hurting right now, but you have to give him credit. He didn’t lead you on, he told the truth, and that’s all anyone could ask for. Rejection hurts, but it’s a part of life, so it’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling right now.

After all, it’s okay just to take your time to get over being rejected by someone who you liked and could imagine a relationship with. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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