Don’t Fall In Love With Your Best Friend

Alex Grodkiewicz

Don’t fall in love with your best friend.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend because you’re lonely and he gives you attention.

He showers you with compliments. He knows you well enough to know what you like, and he offers you this without the guise of expectation love can bring.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend, because when you fall, you risk not having a net to catch you.

He’s the one you go to with your problems. The day you decide to go out is the day you become okay with the idea of potentially becoming the problem for one another. You risk losing a lover and a friend all at once.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend, because nowadays it’s harder to find real friends than it is to find a lover.

People who endlessly support you as you are aren’t a dime a dozen. They take time to find, nurture and keep in your life. If you’ve been lucky enough to have a ride or die, you shouldn’t ruin that.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend, because you know them too well.

You know what makes them tick already. You know how he handles affairs of the heart. And because of this, you know you deep down you can’t trust him with yours.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend, because in all that time you’ve known him, he never once treated you like an option.

You watched him go out with countless girls, listened as he talked casually about the chick he slept with last week, gave advice about the girl who left him. You were never this girl to him before. You are not meant to be this person for him now.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend, because watching him pick other people will continue to break your heart for as long as you let it.

You shouldn’t be with someone you always make excuses for. He only does what’s convenient for himself – that’s all he’s ever done. If ever you held priority to him, you lost it the second you dismissed any of this behavior as being okay.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend, because he’s his best self with you already.

He’s not working through insecurity because you know them all already. He’s not trying to be a polished version of himself at all times because you see through the front. You two will never be more genuine than you are right now.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend, because you both are just too similar.

You have almost too much in common. And despite this, you still find ways to nitpick at the little things he does that really get on your nerves. Way more than they should.

Don’t fall in love with your best friend, because you know you can find someone more compatible for you.

That goes both ways. You care about each other too much to hold one another back from a chance at real love.

He talks about being your wingman, even encourages you to find the right guy. You’ve already heard him describe his dream girl and you never really fit in that spot.

Most of all – don’t fall in love with your best friend because deep down, even if you can’t admit it right now, you know it will always be the image of happily ever after you’re chasing. Not him. TC mark

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