We all lose people in life, and none of us are going to be around forever. That’s a fact of life, something we learn from a fairly young age and know our whole lives. But that never makes it any easier when we are faced with that loss head on. No matter how much you think you’ve prepared, how expected it may have been, how many talks you give yourself about that family member being in a better place, it still devastates you.
There is no quick fix to grief, and it’s something that no one can hide from forever. It may hit you when you’re alone or when you’re surrounded by loved ones. But it is going to hit you, and that’s okay. No one gets to tell you how to grieve or how long you’re allowed to do so. There isn’t a guide book on grief. Sure, there are general stages and tips to help give ideas on how to handle it, but everyone is different, and that means one method isn’t going to work for us all.
While the death of any family member can feel unbearable, there are some members we lose that have us feeling as if the whole world is going to crumble beneath us. One such role could be that of a grandparent. As a grandchild, you feel that you not only have your own grieving to do, but that you also have to do your best to support your parent that just lost their own mom or dad. To help your aunts and uncles to be strong. To let them know that they can lean on you.
This isn’t to say that you can’t express your own grief. In fact, it’s best to lean on one another and to be each other’s support, shoulder, and listening ear. Because you will all get through this. Together. And while that pain may never go away, neither will the memories you have with that loved one. Those are what you should cling to and what should help you make the most of every moment with those you love.