Why You Should Not Stay Single In Your 20s

I read all these articles about why it is a good idea to stay single in your 20’s or in your 30’s, so if I get it right, I need to stay single until I am 40. Therefore, I will write my version of why you need to NOT stay single in your early 20’s.

Most of people try to find themselves at this age, they are wondering what they are going to do with their life (and if they are going to make something at all). You don’t know your own self and try to figure out what you like. Being in a relationship can definitely help you with that and you can receive support from the other person. You have things in common with this person and it is reassuring to be able to talk to someone you care about, that understand you and who can advice you. Your best friend or you mother can be here to listen to you but a boyfriend/girlfriend is a different and deeper relationship (otherwise, no one would date). He/she is your partner-in-crime, the one that will do anything for you. Feminist will probably disagree and tell they don’t need a man to define their personality and I agree in one way but whoever you are dating, they will bring new things to you, their qualities, their passions, their experiences or their ways to see the world. Besides if you don’t want to define yourself with a boy, date a girl! It applies as well.

The great way to make a relationship works will not come naturally. When you are drawing or making music, you need to practice a lot. When it comes to relationship, you need to learn how the other sex works. It makes me think of the movie The 40-Year-Old Virgin with Steve Carell. Imagine meeting this great person but having no experience at all, you just don’t know what to say or what to do and you act stupid. Before being able to get involve in a long-term relationship, you need to experience, not just the other sex but also yourself. Find out what qualities you are looking in someone, find out what your needs and desires are. It is better doing this when you are in your 20’s as it will be the time of your life where you will meet z lot of people, you are going to move out a lot (you don’t need to keep contact with everyone you meet) and you will not be desperate to find THE one so therefore, you will be more open. And making mistakes at the age of 23 is less depressing, you are young and you have plenty to learn. I don’t tell you to sleep with everyone! Just find one person that you appreciate and do stuff with him.

When you are in your 20’s and especially nowadays, marriages and children are less important than it used to be. You don’t have the pressure to give great children to your parents, it makes the relationship easier and with less pressure. This is you and the other person doing and sharing things you both love. Being in a relationship is like being with your best friend all the time, it is all about caring for someone and being cared for and it is the best feeling in the world, no matter how old you are.

You will finally have someone to be with for Valentine’s Day. I don’t know how I managed this but in the 21 first years of my life, I have never been with someone the 14th of February and the fact that I didn’t spend the 2014 edition makes me really proud. Heart-shaped chocolate boxes and pink cupcakes might be overrated but deep down, everyone likes it. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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