Easily one of the most obnoxious things a person could ever do. There’s endless articles about it, coping mechanisms, and even ways to do it right. It’s one of the pinnacle aspects of our dating world, and you probably don’t know anybody who hasn’t been ghosted, or been the ghostee. Now, I know what you’re thinking. How could somebody do something so horrible and not feel bad about it? How could somebody say how much it hurts and do it themselves? I can tell you, easy.
Sometimes you just need to do what’s best for you, simple as that.
Now, maybe what I did wasn’t morally the best. Maybe there was another way to handle things. But sometimes people can bring you down and keep you down, and not try and help bring you up. And that’s what I was experiencing.
The person I ghosted was guilty as charged. He made me feel happy one day, and sad the next. We would stay up until past midnight talking, he’d tell me things he said he didn’t feel comfortable telling other people, and then not talk to me for a solid month. He’d ignore me when he saw me in person, and then accuse me of being clingy if I asked if he was ignoring me, even after nights of talking about the most random things till sunup. He told me he liked me but couldn’t handle a relationship, but he’d tell me when he was ready. Ready never seemed to come.
He was beyond toxic, and made me feel hard to like. He made me feel like I wasn’t good enough, and the sad part was, I started to believe it for a while. I spent way too much time wondering if he even cared, assuming he did when he finally would talk to me again, and be crushed again when he stopped. It was a vicious cycle, and I knew I had to stop it.
It was affecting my mood and my mental health, way more than I can explain. I truly valued this person as a friend before anything else we could of been, and for him to act like that didn’t matter really made me mad. So what did I do?
I logged into Facebook, and blocked and unfriended him. I blocked his number and removed it from my phone. And I’ve truly been happier ever since.
At the end of the day, if somebody is wearing you down, please know you don’t have to put up with it. You are the most important person in your life, and if somebody has the audacity to treat you horribly, especially somebody you trusted, they aren’t worth it. Surround yourself with people who want to be around you, not people who only do after 10pm. People who want to know how your day was, not people who only talk about themselves. Sometimes I miss him, but I know it’s for the best. It’s for the best because my life has been better without him bringing me down. In fact, ghosting was one of the best thing I ever did, and I do not regret it at all.