“Sara, how do I let go?”
The million-dollar question, Mom.
It is the most enduring, undying, and arduous question ever asked. It should seem easy right? Forgive and forget. Let it go…let it go…the cold never bothered me anyway?
Letting go is an art that even the most endowed individual has adversity with. There are a lot of factors that affect how difficult letting go is or how long it will take you. Sometimes it depends on the situation. It is easier to let go of some people and some situations more than others. Depending upon how invested you were, how hurt you were, how much effort you put in. There are a multitude of factors that go into how calm or tiring it will be for you to let something/someone go.
I am only 22 years old and I have barely scratched the surface of this beautiful and magnificent thing we call life. What do I know about letting go? Not much, to be honest. It has been one of the hardest things in my life to do. Whether it is a person or a situation…I just never knew how to let go. Or how to make it easier to let go.
You see, we think that we need somebody else or something else that will help us with letting go. We think that it is out of our control. However, if there is one thing about letting go that I can tell you, it’s that it is all on you. You have the power and you are in control to get up and change your situation. At any time of any day. You have the power to stand up and walk away.
You have the power to never call that person back. You have the power to look for a different job. You have the power to put those donuts away. You have the power to distract yourself from thinking about him or her or them or whoever. You have the power to stop driving by their house or stalking them on social media. You have the power to stand up for yourself. You have the power to accept that there are some things that are meant for you and others that are not. You can say no. You can say yes. You can change the way you feel.
I have realized through a lot of trial an error that I am in control and that even if I cannot change my situation, I can change the way I feel about it. And that, I believe, is the most imperative and fundamental part of learning to let go. If you can teach yourself to amend the ways you view and feel about certain people and situations, letting go becomes a lot simpler.
Letting go is tough. But you can help yourself in making it easier by making choices that you know will lead to the enhanced results. Trust yourself. Be open to alteration and allow modification. Get out of your comfort zone. Lessen your stress. Get rid of the pain and anxiety.
To answer my mother’s question: “You cannot change your situation, but you can change the way you feel about it. And in that, you will find the art of letting go.”
You have the power. Use it. Change it. Let go.