We’ve all been there at one point in our life: where we find ourselves frustrated by our lack of progress or that we continue repeating the same mistakes.
In my book, Your Mental Health and You, one of the main things I emphasize is that what we tell ourselves to rationalize our failures, has a direct impact on whether we overcome adversity or adhere to the same struggles.
Below I have outlined tips and techniques for straying from this pattern that is not only manageable but also effective:
1. Breaking the mindset, “It’s impossible I can’t do it.”
Individuals typically assert this statement when they feel overwhelmed, not because what they want to accomplish is impossible.
The best thing to do when stuck in this type of mindset is to break the problem down into smaller steps. This allows for a more realistic approach to overcome the problem.
2. Blaming others for lashing out.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of unkind people in the world. That said, rather than giving them the power over your actions, remember that there are external factors in life that are beyond your control.
While you are unable to control encounters with people, there is something you can control: yourself. Everyone has the ability to choose how to react to the things that get under their skin.
Some techniques you can implement to handle negative reactions are:
Control what you can!
Cope with what you can’t! (In a healthy manner.)
Most importantly, concentrate on what counts
3. An aversion to constructive criticism.
Generally, people can have a tendency to take offense to constructive criticism. The problem with this is having a one-track mindset can result in a tunnel vision approach to life.
4. The “back in my day” types.
This is a common excuse that people use when they are not ready to implement change, not because they can’t.
5. Fear of failure.
When we increasingly encounter failures, it becomes more difficult to remain motivated and defeat adversity. These aforementioned situations can contribute to a “what’s the point mindset.”
However, it is important to keep in mind that it can be tricky to see things from a bird’s eye view when we’re caught in a challenging context.
This is why sometimes we need to work on building skills such as self-awareness, self-acceptance, and resilience in order to build ourselves up.
These and similar traits help us to understand how we not only unconsciously sabotage ourselves but also how we contribute to our successes and failures. And understanding this will help us to develop our emotional and psychological well being.