Thirty: the milestone birthday we all dreaded in our twenties. As your twenties come to an end, you look back and cringe while simultaneously wanting to hold on to your youth. Hitting this milestone birthday feels like life hits you, and you’re instantly supposed to transform into a better person. Give yourself grace, though; you’re evolving and growing. No one expects you to transform into a new person instantly, but you owe it to yourself to be better than you were.
So keep striving, keep pushing yourself. Reflect and begin working on your shortcomings, so you can be the better you that you deserve to be.
1. Let go of things that are disrupting your peace
Stop giving away your peace to people, places, things, and situations. Harness the power of walking away.
2. Learn to apologize
Life is too short not to apologize, but know the difference between when you need to and when you’re people-pleasing.
3. You’re not always right
Be a little more open-minded to other people’s perspectives. Sometimes proving your point isn’t worth damaging relationships.
4. Take care of your clothes
You’re too old not to be separating whites and colors. Find your favorite fabric softener, and don’t shy away from the dry cleaner.
5. Let go of past mistakes
Stop letting your past define you. Our mistakes teach us lessons we need to learn. Be grateful for your past experiences because they’re helping you get where you want to go.
6. Your happiness is your responsibility
Stop blaming the world like it owes you—it doesn’t. Learn how to take action in the present. Hold yourself accountable for your past and future, and find joy in the little moments.
7. Stop allowing people to disrespect you
When you allow someone to disrespect you, you’re teaching them how to treat you. Stop making excuses for poor behavior.
8. Stop lowering your standards
Your standards are the bar for your happiness. Believe you deserve to be happy, and don’t give anyone the power to take that away from you. Set your non-negotiables and do not give in to others at your expense.
9. Restaurant etiquette
Learn how to order, pace yourself, and treat the service staff. Pay attention to people who do not know how to do these things. It will tell you everything you need to know about their character.
10. Stop investing in relationships that have no potential
You owe it to yourself to take your energy back from every relationship that has no future. Stop pouring your heart into people that don’t match your future.
11. Let go of your timelines
Get it out of your head that you have to do things the way other people are or think you should be. No one really cares what you do anyway, so stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Do what makes you happy and stop tearing yourself apart for not being where society tells you that you should be.
12. Always wear sunscreen
You can never use it enough. Most beauty products have SPF, so make sure your makeup and skincare protect you from sun damage. Know the difference between zinc and titanium oxide, and don’t forget your neck.
13. Steer clear from office gossip
Work hard, be quick to help others, but slow to form personal relations. Learn how to hold yourself professionally and don’t be fooled into believing your colleagues are your best friends.
14. Have a skincare regimen
Cleanse, tone, serum, and moisturize morning and night every day. Indulge in a weekly mask and never sleep with makeup on.
15. Know the difference between being stubborn and determined
A stubborn ego is an entree to destructive behavior. Know when you’re foolish and immature vs. disciplined and ambitious.
16. Stop trying to please everyone
Stop constantly saying yes to things you don’t want to do to make others happy. If you live your life to please everyone else, you lose your true self.
17. Know your worth
Please don’t ever ask for it and don’t negotiate it. Don’t explain why you want it, stop engaging with those who challenge it, and walk away without hesitation from those who fail to see it.
18. Know how to take a compliment
Just take it, say thank you, and own the hell out of it.
19. Know how to be alone
Know the difference between being lonely and being alone. Learn how to relax and be comfortable with yourself.
20. Hold yourself accountable
Address your problematic thoughts and behaviors. Acknowledge your weaknesses, manage your flaws, and take ownership of your faults.
21. Write down your goals
If you want something, write it down, and go after it. Stop making excuses about how you’re not ready. Overcome your insecurities, and the voice in your head telling you what you want is not achievable. Start believing in yourself and go after what you want.
22. Be confident in your professional skill set
Know what your superpower is and own it. Know what you’re truly amazing at and what makes you a valuable asset.
23. Everything on the internet isn’t real
While you’re scrolling through social media, remember it’s just a highlight reel. No one’s posting their struggles, bad days, and stressors. Followers and likes are fleeting. Please don’t ever start to feel like it determines your worth.
24. You don’t need closure to move on
Know when you need to walk away from a situation. We can fool ourselves into believing we need permission or comfort to let go of something, but it’s just our way of trying to control the pain that the termination will bring. Allow yourself the power to feel the pain and let go.
25. Learn to relax
Life is about balance, so give yourself permission to press pause. Feeling the need to be busy all the time is a trauma response. Relax, recharge, and reflect. It’s okay to do nothing.
26. Ask for help when you need it
It’s okay to ask for help; no one expects you to do it all on your own. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak.
27. Be honest with yourself
Honesty will bring clarity, and clarity will give you the opportunities you’re looking for; So start being honest with yourself about who you are and what you want.
28. Eat healthier
You get one body; make it last.
29. Don’t take life so seriously
Life doesn’t make sense sometimes, so stop trying to make sense of everything. Learn to laugh in stressful and confusing times. Let yourself relax and trust that everything will play out the way it’s intended.
30. Find gratitude in everything
Gratitude is the antidote to every bad mood and situation. It gives peace of the past, a sense of accomplishment, and optimism for the future. Find gratitude, and happiness will find you.