What College Guys Actually Mean When They Ghost On You

Raffik Lopes
Raffik Lopes

In the wonderful, always exciting (sarcasm) hook-up culture that we currently live in, none of us can say that we haven’t heard the same-old, same-old excuses from college guys when it comes to relationships. I, myself, am guilty of spending hours, days, even weeks analyzing the famous last words of a guy that I’d been hooking up with for a few weeks. I’m guilty of making excuses for said guy, convincing myself that the timing was simply off or we were both just super busy with schoolwork. The fact of the matter is, he just wasn’t that into me.

1. I’m so busy with school and looking for jobs right now, I just can’t commit to anything serious.

I am fairly certain that if you were into me, you could spare me a few hours of your video game time each week to hang out. If a guy is into you, he will make the time. No ifs, ands, or buts. My roommate’s boyfriend is currently dating a guy who has a full class load AND is studying for the MCATs. If there’s a will, there’s a way.

2. I’m just not emotionally ready for a relationship.

I do think there are rare cases in which this phrase may actually hold some truth…but in most cases, it’s a cop-out. Not only does your guy look sensitive and introspective, but you also can’t get upset for the lack of commitment. Don’t fall for it ladies.

3. I’m just looking to have some fun right now, and this got too serious.

Nothing like a guy making you feel guilty for feeling normal, human emotions about someone. If a guy is really into you, he’ll settle down. He’ll want something serious.

4. You deserve so much better than me.

This one delivers the same sweet, sensitive punch as number 2. If you’re so wonderful, then why doesn’t this guy want you as his own? *common sense*

5. Nothing.

My personal favorite. There is nothing more clear than a guy who ghosts you. If he isn’t texting you back, asking you to hang out, or making an effort to get to know you…well, he’s just not that into you. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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