Wrath is indeed a terrible sin. Not only does it destroy a perfectly good day and meddle with your thoughts, it is the driving force that acts as a barrier between your relationships. A terrible temper can take control of your life.
If you are one of those people who suffer from a raging wrath, we congratulate you on one thing: you are certainly aware of it and are looking for ways to control it instead of letting it control your life.
Without further ado—and before you lose your patience–let’s move on to how you can manage your anger and deal with a stressful situation in a positive rather than negative way.
1. Think Before You Speak, Or Don’t Speak At All
The worst problem with temper is that is makes you do things and say things you regret later on. You are barely in your senses and you let your rage take control of you. Take a few minutes to think about what you want to say or do before you actually do. Try to relax your thoughts and be very mindful of what comes out of your mouth. If you still feel that whatever you say will be nasty and rude, walk out of the situation and save the speaking part for later—when you are much cooler.
2. Just Breath
Think of that “heated moment” as your test. You are being tested for how calm and composed you can be. Just breathe and let your thoughts calm down. Practice deep breathing or other meditative techniques before you vent your frustration. Meditative techniques will not only calm your mind and clear away the negative clutter, but it will also increase your focus. With clearer focus, you will be able to judge your actions and words wisely.
3. Go For A Walk/Run
Stress can be considerably reduced with physical activity. According to ADAA (Anxiety and Depression Association of America), “Exercise and other physical activities produce endorphins—a chemical in the brain that act as natural painkillers—and also improve the ability to sleep, which in turn reduces stress.”
4. Focus On The Problem And Possible Solutions
While in anger, we tend to obsess over the problem of the situation instead of concentrating on ways the problem could be solved. Remember, there is always a solution to any problem! In fact, there are many ways to deal with a problematic situation and we have to decide ourselves which suits us best.
For example, you might get infuriated every time a bullying co-worker snaps a rude remark at you and you probably react to the situation by snapping back. This wouldn’t help the situation at all and as a matter of fact, exacerbate it. Instead of letting the anger and frustration ruin your peace at work, think of ways you could deal with the discourteous co-worker. Possibly, you could avoid the co-worker altogether and choose not to impacted by their words. You could change your seat, ask for a rotation, or talk to your manager about their obnoxious behavior. Once you have figured out a solution you will realize that life isn’t so bad!
5. Use Humor To Ease The Situation
Humor works like magic when you want to lighten a stressful situation. Your spouse shrunk your T-shirt? Laugh it off! A friend told you how terrible you look with a sharp lipstick color? Tell them you’re celebrating “ugly” day. Just lighten up the situation with a bit of humor and let it help release the tension.
6. Seek Help
If you suffer from serious and uncontrollable anger, you might need to consult an expert. In some cases, uncontrollable anger is a result of a serious mental illness such as bipolar disorder and can only be treated by a doctor/psychiatrist.