Right now, you’re right where you’re supposed to be. Every person’s life has a different storyline, and however it plays out is exactly what is supposed to happen for them. Being able to trust the process is an important ability to have. Every event in your life—every success, every misfortune, every single thing each day—is leading up to where you’re supposed to be.
No person can tell you where you should be in life at any moment. There are no deadlines in your existence. You don’t have to have your life figured out at 18. In fact, if you think you do, you’re probably wrong. So much will change, it’s absurd to be expected to plan your life out when you’re still a kid. Don’t worry if you’re not married by 25. I’m proud of you for not settling for someone that wasn’t right for you. It’s okay if you’re 36 and haven’t started a family; it’s okay if you’re in your 40s and starting a new career or if you’re 52 and haven’t yet discovered your true passion. You’re on the right track. You’re doing what YOU are supposed to be doing.
There is no such thing as a wrong decision. Never beat yourself up for something you chose. Stop wondering what would have happened if you had chosen the other option. There’s a reason that you didn’t. Every single decision is leading up to what your life is meant to be. That shouldn’t be scary, it should be comforting that it’s impossible for you to make the wrong decision—there are no wrong decisions. Even if you do something that ends tragically, that event was supposed to happen. If you follow your gut, you’ll always be on the right path.
Don’t let anyone talk you into doing anything that doesn’t feel right or that you don’t want to do. What’s right for someone else surely may not be right for you. Whatever your friends are doing doesn’t have to be what you do. Your age does not determine the point you are at in your life or the things you “should” be doing by that age. Wait until things feel right for you. You’re the only person that matters.
You’ll know what feels right for you versus what someone else wants for you. The hard part is having the courage to stray away from what is expected of you and do what is actually right for you. You have to love yourself more than you love pleasing others. Value your happiness more than you value pleasing others. People pleasing will never make you happy. The only person you should be pleasing is yourself.
Trust where you’re at. Don’t force yourself to do something because someone else thinks you should. I’m sure those people want what’s best for you, but that doesn’t mean they know what you personally need at that time in your life. Do what feels right for you. This will lead you to a more fulfilling life. A life you love—the life you are meant to be living.