We want him to like us not so much because we really like him, but because it’s validating. It means we’re worthy and likable. It means we’re going to be OK. This is the wrong mindset.
We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.
You have to deal with your damage. That’s the only way to get rid of it and not let it spill into our future and ruin it.
Ask yourself what thoughts/behaviors led you into this relationship. What did you bring to the relationship that was good and that you could use in your next relationship?
Explosive chemistry isn’t what creates a lasting, healthy relationship. It can lead to great sex and feelings of euphoria, and you may come to understand why they say love is a drug, but no matter how intense and all consuming, that sort of thing is seldom sustainable long term.
We continue to live life in the same way and hope that it will somehow lead to different results.
Understanding how men think and what they need in a relationship makes an enormous difference.
Do you wonder why your relationships always fall apart? What pushes men away? Are your expectations about love too high…or too low? How can you recognize dead-end relationships and stop wasting time on them?
There is nothing more exasperating in the world of dating than a guy who seems really interested, but then also maybe not…but then yes…but no again.
He likes me, he likes me not…. now that is the real question. It can be frustrating at times but the fact remains that when a guy likes you, it is obvious….you just need to know what signs to look for.