“You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife.”
Everyone’s heard this phrase in their life, women who are comfortable in their sexuality more than anyone. It’s essentially saying someone who has a lot of sex or embraces her body is not “wife” material. But who decided that? Who decided that the amount of people who have seen your body lessens the amount you have to offer in a relationship? Here’s a few reasons why that phrase is outdated.
1. Your definition of housewife sounds more like a slave. You want an “independent woman” who works and pays her half of the bills but also does all your cleaning, cooking, and laundry? Add a few kids onto that, which I’m sure you expect her to do as it’s a woman’s job, right? It’s not reasonable anymore. Maybe a hundred years ago it was the ideal situation, but as living costs increase, the need for a two-income household is essential. You expect her to do everything and get upset when she complains. It’s unreasonable.
If you have a situation where this works for both of you and you’re both happy with it, then hats off to you, but it’s extremely rare now. If you want a happy wife, you need to be pulling your weight.
I get it though, your job is soooo much harder, right? You’re a hard labor worker so you’re much more tired at the end of the day. She’s exhausted too. If she does everything for you, give her a break once in a while. If you’re demanding she does everything for you while you watch video games until the kids are in bed and then expect an orgasm, you’re not pulling your weight. I don’t care how hard your job is.
I wish I was making this all up, but this is all things I’ve heard from men that I know, men that I love. My own best friends can’t grasp the concept of an equal relationship. If you think this doesn’t apply to you, tally up everything your wife does for you, or what you’d expect her to do for you, on a daily basis. Then count what you give her in return. I promise you’ll be surprised.
2. She doesn’t want to be a housewife. Simple as that. Not every woman’s dream is to be a stay at home mom and pack your lunches and go to PTA meetings. Some women like their freedom. Going to the club is fun. She wants to dance, be spontaneous with you, and live a life far from average.
Her happiness does not start and end with a family. Maybe she wants one someday, but not right now. Maybe she never wants one. If that’s a deal breaker for you, then move on. She shouldn’t have to sacrifice her goals in life for you. You shouldn’t have to either. If you’re not compatible then there’s nothing you can do.
3. She doesn’t want to be a housewife for you. She has it in her. She wants to cook dinner and start a family, but not with you. Trust me when I say, from all of us hoes, were happy doing our own thing until someone comes along and makes us want to change.
An old friend of mine was consoling my best friend who had fallen for me and told him he dodged a bullet — I was a stripper, I was a hoe, I wasn’t worth it. That was far from true. When I started seeing a new guy, I knew he was uncomfortable with me being a sex worker. I didn’t give up my lifestyle for him completely, but I started to realize I wasn’t happy with it anymore. Some girls can handle being a stripper and in a relationship, but I can’t. Talking to 50 guys a night, letting them eyeball me, grinding on strangers, and I could only think about him. The night we said “I love you” for the first time, I gave up stripping for good.
So yeah, I wasn’t willing to give up my “hoe” lifestyle for one man, but I was for the right one. Now I want to be a housewife. I want to take care of him and do all the classic mom things. I want to wake up early to pack his lunch, kiss him goodbye, and clean the kitchen after. The deciding factor was him. You can turn a hoe into a housewife when she wants to be one for you.
I’m not saying you have to abandon your Christian morals or whatever for a girl who doesn’t meet those standards. I’m not saying you have to settle. You can wait for the right one who’s in the same place in life as you are, and I hope that works out. But don’t insult women just trying to live their best life in the process.