The Pros And Cons Of Being Single

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 Pro: When you’re hungover and vomiting on a Saturday morning, you can take solace in knowing that you’re all alone and won’t be seen and judged by anyone — except God, of course! Seriously though, when I wake up with even the slightest hangover, I’m thankful that I don’t have to deal with anyone touching me. I can ride out the misery in peace.

Con: Why were you drinking so much, babe? Is it because you’re secretly miserable about being ALL ALONE? I doubt you would’ve drank so much if you had someone who loved you by your side…

Pro: You can plan your entire life without putting anyone else’s thoughts and feelings into consideration. Want to go away for a month and, like, look at dolphins and drink margaritas or wanna rent a cabin in the woods and build your own Walden pond? Do it! You don’t have anyone’s private parts holding you back. Since you’re not doing anyone else at the moment, just do you!

Con: But, boy, wouldn’t it be nice to be able to go on a vacation with a lover and have sex all day in a new bed? Sure, it feels great being selfish and doing whatever you want, but it would also feel nice planning big life moves with someone else. Also, you’re pretty sure that being single has turned you into an inflexible brat who doesn’t understand the art of compromise. If you were in a relationship, perhaps you could evolve? Hon?

Pro: YOU GET TO HAVE SEX WITH WHOEVER YOU WANT WHENEVER YOU WANT. People in relationships are jealous that you can just go up to someone and be like “Meet me in my ‘hidden place’ in five minutes!” Monogamous people want that! They are totes secretly bummed that they committed to one person’s genitalia for the rest of their life. Suckers!

Con: Wait, even though it feels good to bone in an unattached way, you miss the security of having guaranteed sex. Single people have to work in order to get laid. It requires some serious effort whereas people in relationships can just be like, “K, I’m ready.” You want that! You want to be able to get sex without leaving your apartment and, no, you won’t hire a hooker.

Pro: You get to dedicate more time to your AMAZING friends. Gosh, you’ve missed them. Your schedules have just gotten so cray cray lately but now you’ll be able to spend some much-needed bonding time.

Con: Oh shoot, all my friends got boyfriends when I wasn’t looking. Okay, I guess I’ll bond with myself then!

Pro: You can indulge all your gross behaviors. You don’t have to hold farts in. You don’t have to deal with poop anxiety. You don’t have to pretend you’re not hungry and order a salad at dinner. When you’re single, it’s always going to be “Miss Jackson if you’re nasty.”

Con: Sometimes it’s not good to be the most disgusting version of yourself. Just sayin’, babe! TC Mark

Ryan O'Connell

I'm a brat.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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