Things Men Can Get Away With That Women Can’t

Men can get away with being single. In fact it’s preferable to be a bachelor. Think of The Hangover versus Bridesmaids—two films that deal with the eve of a BFF’s wedding in entirely different ways. In The Hangover, it’s depicted as their last chance to behave like maniacal boys, their last chance at freedom before their bromance takes a hit and the dude gets castrated by saying “I Do”.  Bridesmaids also explores the change in dynamic when a BFF gets married. However, Kristen Wiig’s character approaches all of these pre-wedding rituals with a sense of dread because she’s sooooo single. Meanwhile, Bradley Cooper, who portrays the male version of Kristen Wiig’s character in Bridesmaids, is seen as anything but devastated. In fact he’s the one who’s in an enviable position. His friend is getting married while he still gets to sow his wild oats. Sucker! (Note: Bradley Cooper’s character is married but the relationship may as well not exist.) With Wiig, the oats have been sewn. There’s nothing left for her to do but to get married as well. As amazing and progressive as Bridesmaids was, I resented the fact that Wiig had to have a love interest. In the end, it was all okay anyway because she met the perfect dude. Thank god! Imagine if she had remained single throughout all of it. Too bleak. It IS a comedy, remember?

Men can be fat. Men can be Seth Rogen while women always have to be Katherine Heigl. Whaaaaat? I don’t get it! It’s not just in the movies either. I see a ton of real-life Knocked Up couples walking the streets and get a little sad. They hold their man’s belly while wearing a skintight dress that shows off their long stems and they whisper, “I saw it on TV. I don’t know. I thought it was my only option to marry a Jim Belushi. All of the Eric Dane’s were sold out at the store that day.” A day that I see the roles reversed —a day that I see a chubby woman holding hands with a Brad Pitt—is a day I will be so happy.

Men can get away with falling into bed with everyone. This is not a novel observation. The sexual double standard has been discussed ad nauseam but it’s still worth noting because it’s a biggie. It informs what we see on our television screens and in magazines and how we conduct ourselves in real life. How many times has a woman abstained from sex because the media told her to? Countless. How many times has a man abstained from sex because of what he’s been taught? I mean, I think the takeaway message here is that women feel the need to be conscious of their sexual behavior whereas men don’t. The reasons why a woman says no to sex are going to be more complicated than a man’s reasons.

Men can get away with open objectification. Think of that movie Disclosure with Demi Moore and Michael Douglas, in which Demi plays a power boss intent on ruining Douglas’ life with a sexual harassment lawsuit. She had the audacity to be aggressive and she was punished accordingly. It would’ve been an entirely different movie if roles had been reversed. Men can openly catcall without being penalized but a woman cannot be afforded the same luxury. That’s why the whole concept of male strippers is more goofy than sexual. A woman treating a man like a piece of meat and actually desiring him? I’m blushing!

All of this being said, there are a lot of things women can get away with that men can’t. We all pay a price for being born with a set of genitalia. Don’t worry, we’re all screwed!!! TC mark

Image via Knocked Up

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  • Dennanoss

    What can women get away with that men cant?

    • Nick

      I propose a follow-up article.

    • Annie

      Crying

    • http://www.twitter.com/clowve Joyce

      Crying, for one.

    • http://www.twitter.com/clowve Joyce

      Declining sex with the excuse of period, another.

    • Markb_86

      Crying

      • :'(

        I would actually argue the opposite. If women want to be ‘taken seriously,’ then they have to act more stereotypically ‘male,’ specifically regarding emotions/ crying. Think John Boehner… his crying made him ‘sensitive’ and ‘passionate.’ If Hillary Clinton (for example) had done the same thing, she would have been ‘overly emotional,’ ‘pms-ing,’ or ‘weak.’

    • http://twitter.com/mung_beans Mung Beans

      eating yogurt

      • Anonymous

        “Eating yogurt.” 

        Please begin writing for TC immediately.

    • http://www.facebook.com/grc15r Gregory Costa

      Dressing in ladies clothes…this is from first-hand experience. 

    • Tyrone

      oi so apparently men can’t cry.

    • Anonymous

      wearing flip flops

    • http://www.twitter.com/clowve Joyce

      Having tits.

  • Christina

    I liked this right up till the very last few sentences – bit of a cop out at the end! x

  • Carolyn DeCarlo

    lol that video

  • Justeunefille

    Chelsea Fagan please write a follow up!

  • suzy q

    A modern Feminist man. My favorite

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Thomas-Aragon/100002827951441 Thomas Aragon

    OMG!!!! REALLY What a STATEMENT NOW THIS IS KEEPING IT REAL.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Fred-Heath/540795601 Fred Heath

    Wow. Vain, and totally lacking perspective. If a woman decides to be with the ‘Seth Logan’ of men, it is not so much the societal super-ego that is drawing her to him, or what she sees in the fucking movies. This is no longer the 20’s. Women are no longer forced to be objects, or anything for that matter. When you see that couple on the street, it’s either because he’s loaded, or has a heart of hold, and implying that a woman would be so stupid as to be with a man like that because he can ‘get away with it’ is insulting. A fat man that sleeps around, and objectifies women, is not desirable no matter how many hollywood rom-coms come to the big screen. The only thing that this article gets across, is the obvious societal faux pas’ that are in the process of changing in this very generation. Yes, it is not as frowned upon for a man to be single, as it is for a woman. Yes it is true that a man that sleeps around isn’t looked down upon (as much) as a woman is, and yes it is true that women are more objectified than men but even this is controversial at this point, and all of these subjects are changing. Is there anything original in the thought process of this article? Seems like regurgitated ranting to me, and anything but feminist. In the modern world, the strongest anti-feminist force is women’s own perspective. CHANGE IT.

    • Aline

      I think you meant heart of Gold, and it’s Seth Rogen, not Logan, this isn’t X-Men, but I concur overall.

    • Anonymous

      The subjects are changing but I doubt that the perspective will change. 

  • Bollywoodbattersea

    binge eating should be one of them! if a man eats a shit load, its because hes a ~growing boy~ but if a woman does, shes a disgusting cow. shame. binge eating should be unacceptable for BOTH sexes.

    • http://twitter.com/laputanwmachine Thomas

      “binge eating should be acceptable for BOTH sexes.”

      fixed that for you

    • Tyrone

      what if they’re bulking?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_EUL6B7WZUNAHGMO5KRCKZTGP54 Damen Handle

    Men can get away with farting

    • http://twitter.com/enteglement Egle Makaraite

      not true i get away with it alllll the tiime

    • Guest

      um, women have more digestive problems than men due to hormones, so, women actually fart more, and yes they can get away with it, especially if done discreetly.

  • Internetstranger

    why would anyone think that this needs to be written

    not a single new thought in here

    • Anonymous

      you don’t write about what is new, you emphasize the old. Or at least that’s what every bloody writer does, don’t go expecting reading some revolutionary article cos you’re gonna get bitterly disappointed my friend

      • Tyrone

        your rpely has revolutionalized my life.

  • Guest

    If you paid attention to knocked up, you would know that she wasn’t initially attracted to him. And they only had sex because she was wasted..Soo..it’s not really okay for a guy to be fat ..at least initally..

    • guest

      If I had to be with Katherine Heigl I’d probably off myself.

  • Anonymous

    I was expecting something a bit more clever. It’s always important to point out double standards and to engage others in the conversation, but as a few others pointed out, originality would be nice. 

    • Tyrone

      Everybody please thank koshinka for this absolutely original comment.

      • Anonymous

        I’m a commenter; no one should expect me to be original ;) TC writers should be held to higher standards though, no?

  • Dana Ammann

    My boyfriend in high school would never have sex with me because he was a Christian :,(

    • http://twitter.com/mung_beans Mung Beans

      ahahaha, my Christian high school boyfriend used to freak and say WE CAN NEVER DO THIS AGAIN and I’d be like ‘well okay if that’s what you want’ and then he’d totally initiate again

      • Guest

        that’s so cute.

      • Tyrone

        SHO KYUTE.

  • Exceptformeandmymonkey

    If a man doesn’t want children it’s considered relatively normal. If a woman doesn’t want children something is wrong with them. A little more depth and exploration in this article would be nice.

  • anom

    I don’t agree. Men are not allowed to be fat, especially in the gay community.  

    • http://www.facebook.com/boelbaum Brenda Oelbaum

      Really??? What Bears???? big fat hairy gay guys?? they are totally hot, for both gay and straight women aka Goldie Locks

  • http://www.remylexington.blogspot.com Remy Lexington

    Honestly alot of these “double standards” are more a result of evolution and the way we procreate than anything else.

    While the idea that humans are mostly monogamous still prevails in most studies and for various reasons there are many studies done on nature with other animals that are considered monogamous that they still do seek out other sexual partners. I am not going to get into the benefits for both sexes but just know that they are there.

    But if you understand that males (in any species) are designed to spread their genes as much as they can and/or make sure their genes live on, you can then see the thumbs up they would get from not being “tied down” in our society it would, in a round about way, seem to indicate that the individual was able to have sex more (more chances to spread genes). This also somewhat explains why men are indeed more hornier than women. On the flip side of this females are meant to make sure they choose a suitable  mate with good genes and raise and care for their offspring otherwise as a whole the species would become weak and die out. If she is not with someone she is not able to carry this objective out, hence why you could see in a round about way why it is frowned upon in our society. Regardless of what century it is, this is what we humans, as animals were designed to do… make babies. Yes gender roles are changing but that is more society effecting us against what nature intended. Men and Women should always be seen as equal in our society but when it comes to our human sexuality we are quite different.

    Men do not have to be as physically attractive as Women do because in the end its not what Women base a suitable partner on. Sure health does come into play but in the end they are judging him on how well he will be able to take care of her offspring. Sure sure, you might say “awww come on, sometimes I just want to be screwed by a hot hunk that i meet at a bar” And that may be true, but in finding a suitable boyfriend a female is looking at many other things besides how hot he is. You could say success, potential for success, confidence, you could say humor, you could say how thoughtful he is, how caring, point is females are much more about whats in the head than males are. Males on the other hand like fat asses and big titties. Not because society tells them too, but because these are attributes of more fertile female. They even showed pictures to natives out in villages in the middle of bumblefuck and they still chose the more busty and wider hipped female pictures. (child bearing hips) These, in natures eyes, are indicators of a better chance of conception to happen hence the spreading of genes. Men are more of the physical body.

    Men are “allowed” to fall in bed with anyone because in nature hes doing what he is supposed to do. Fuck as much as he can. Females don’t get this “allowance” because she is supposed be pickier with who she lays with. Again this is coming from a “making babies” stand point. I mean if you would like to look at it another way. All a girl really has to do to get laid is say “Yes” Girls do not need game to get sex. Guys do. Even a mildly attractive girl can get laid if she really wanted to. A guy, not so much. A guy that gets laid alot has good game. A girl that gets laid alot has low standards.

    I dont think any sex can get away with objectifying the other sex. If you are using a movie to prove a point try again. If you want to look to strip clubs as a place of objectification, this is a place where the women are making money on being objectified. They should understand this. If they do not, they are stupid. As explained before men are more for physical attributes and this is a place in which women allow themselves to be objectified for a price.

    Ill probably get shit for some of the stuff I’ve said here, but do yourself a favor and before replying look into human sexuality studies. As I said before, women and men should always be considered equal in our society. But people must understand that both sexes are different, but that is how evolution intended it to be. One is not better than the other, in fact when you really get into it both sexes actually compliment each other for the benefit of the survival of the human race. And if you dont buy that in why we are different just look at our genitalia.

    • Rei

      As it happens, I don’t agree with any of what you just said, but the fact is – even if all of that stuff were true (which, as far as I’m concerned, it’s not), surely all it means is that there would be observed patterns in behavioural trends. That would be one thing. The problem isn’t that, it’s that people who deviate from that norm are seen as people to be punished rather than just people who are different.

      “A guy that gets laid alot has good game. A girl that gets laid alot has low standards.”

      This, on the other hand, is pure bullshit. A guy who gets laid a lot and a girl who gets laid a lot may have good game, low standards, a sheer love of sex, all three, or some other reason. And if the women are the one making the babies, surely there’s an evolutionary argument for them to fuck more than men? After all, they’re the ones with the biological clock, and by your argument all women need to have as many babies as possible according to their “biological blueprint”, so if a woman’s not objectively attractive she would, by your logic, be even more promiscuous than the most gamey of gamers.

      Of course, (one of) the flaw(s) in your argument is that if it were
      really as simple as that nobody would ever have thought of birth
      control, because if sex were all about the urge to procreate then nobody
      would have bothered to think up a gazillion methods to have sex without
      the risk of a baby.

      “This also somewhat explains why men are indeed more hornier than women.”

      I can tell you for free that that is not true. Just trust me. It’s not.
       

      • http://www.remylexington.blogspot.com Remy Lexington

        “The problem isn’t that, it’s that people who deviate from that norm are
        seen as people to be punished rather than just people who are different.”

        I agree with you that the way society treats people who do not fit with the norm is not right. I do think that if people perhaps took a second and understood more of the dynamic between male and female sexuality they might perhaps have less negativity towards said dispositions. However if you look at the idea of what is the norm, in terms of reproduction, what is “tried and true” is what is keeping the human race alive. If its been kept in by evolution then it must work for survival. People who deviate from this or try to change this are in some way tampering with the very survival of the human race. I believe that alot of the negativity in some ways unconsciously comes from this.

        “This, on the other hand, is pure bullshit. A guy who gets laid a lot and
        a girl who gets laid a lot may have good game, low standards, a sheer
        love of sex, all three, or some other reason.”

        I’ll say it again. A girl does not need game to get laid. She just has to say yes. As for a love of sex… who doesn’t love sex? Low standards… and you just proved my point. Males do not have standards when it comes to procreating. Remember? If a males job is to spread his genes as much as possible then thats what he will do, regardless. When you refer to low standards this why females get the shit end of the stick. If a female is sleeping around, she has low standards. With her, when it comes to reproduction she needs to pick good genes. If she doesn’t then she is looked down upon in not doing her part to make sure only the best genes go forward in future generations. Understand that while not all sexual encounters are to reproduce (sex is after all fun) I believe that the sentiments that are reflected in society can somewhat be traced back to this idea. Is it right? No, but this perhaps is where the double standard comes from.

        “And if the women are the one making the babies, surely there’s an evolutionary argument for them to fuck more than men?”

        Women can only get pregnant once at a time. So there really is no benefit to wanting to fuck more. I will say that some studies have shown that even in other monogamous species sometimes either partner would cheat on the other. For males the reason is somewhat obvious (increase chances genes survive) for females Scientists speculate that its some sort of evolutionary protocol to keep the gene pool fresh. Some say its an added competitive screening. In nature if one male is a better care taker than another male but that other male might have better genes, the female gets the best of both worlds in by not knowing whose offspring it is the better care taker takes care of the offspring regardless.

        “After all, they’re the ones with the biological clock, and by your
        argument all women need to have as many babies as possible according to
        their “biological blueprint”

        Women do not need to have as many babies as possible. They are more focused on quality over quantity. They are the ones  that have more time invested in each offspring. And as you pointed out females biological clock is what hovers over each females head in which case is why its so worrisome or a bad thing if a female is single. Not to mention if the males are the ones supposedly doing the seeking and she has not been sought out there is that to think about as well.

        “so if a woman’s not objectively attractive she would, by your logic, be even more promiscuous than the most gamey of gamers.”

        If she knows that or thinks that she is unattractive one would say or think she has low self esteem, and is not low self esteem a quality trait that is usually associated with someone who is promiscuous?

        “Of course, (one of) the flaw(s) in your argument is that if it were really as simple as that nobody would ever have thought of birth control, because if sex were all about the urge to procreate then nobody would have bothered to think up a gazillion methods to have sex without
        the risk of a baby.”

        Obviously throughout time our society has to some degree dictated how many offspring people could have. You might even bring nature into this as well. See, having too many offspring one then sacrifices the quality of care of all the offspring decreases the chances of successful offspring. In our society financial freedom is a big determination of how large a family might be. Remember sex is fun, it feels good, and its a great way to show the love you have for someone. People just dont always want a kid each time they do it. The way men and women engage eachother in courtship is rooted in reproduction, sex. However sex does not always have to yield an offspring.

        and as for men being hornier than women. they are.

      • Guest

        I think your argument doesn’t take some things into consideration..

        Females are looked down upon by society for having many sexual partners, which in turn dampens their drive to seek many sexual partners. Both sexes have testosterone and estrogen. They just have different balances. There are many women that actually have a lot of testosterone.  Men are not always hornier than women; men are just more visual and “out there” with their sexuality.  This means men are more likely to stare at women, go to strip clubs, talk about sex, etc.  A woman’s sexuality is more internal.  This doesn’t mean that women aren’t just as horny as men, it just means that women are taught and tend to conceal their sexuality more. It’s also been reported that teenage girls are becoming more sexually aggressive..so your argument isn’t exactly valid.

      • Guest

        Also, the fact that you base all that you know about male/female relationships on the evolutionary theory, is frankly quite sad.

      • http://www.remylexington.blogspot.com Remy Lexington

        http://www.medindia.net/news/Study-Declares-Men-Hornier-Than-Women-77666-1.htm

        guess what? the scientific community disagrees with you!

        please, dont blame society for lack of a sex drive. If you take a look at the study it also takes into account masturbation which again men do more of.  You are going to tell me society also looks down on women who masturbate more than it looks down upon men? Its something anyone can do in the privacy of their home without the worry of people judging them.

        I see alot of people telling me im wrong, but none of you have even come close to basing your statements in any actual grounds.

      • Guest

        Take a basic course in psych and you’ll find that people aren’t just programmable robots like behaviorism once had us believe; humans form greater paradigms and construct complex realities, and in doing so they become less affected by the strictest forms of learning.  

        Here’s the story:  You tell a girl over and over throughout her development that she should abstain from sexuality until she meets Prince Charming.  The greater paradigm formed is not that she will get punished for having sex; it is that sexuality makes her dirty, and her survival depends on being clean enough that a hero will carry her into matrimony.  Ultimately, in constructing a reality around the goodness of chastity and the wickedness of sexual indulgence, she will masturbate less not because she is afraid of being caught and punished, but because she is afraid of BEING wicked.

        You’re living in the past, when humanity was conveyed as simplistic; your science has more in common with religious dominance than it does with genuine inquiry.  Humans are complex.  There is still plenty to be discovered.

        And I find it ironic that you as a man are declaring yourself the ruler on defining gender, even if you justify it with scientific articles, especially while you are rationalizing a life of pleasure and freedom for men and a life of work for women.

      • http://www.remylexington.blogspot.com Remy Lexington

         First you tell me that humans are not just programmable robots, then you go into a story about how women were programmed to like sex less. After that, you liken my view to something more in common with religious dominance yet your story contains words like “chasity” and “matrimony” which both are words coming out of religion. btw I am an Atheist. ;)

        While I do not disagree that the environment and culture around us can effect us. I still find it quite the stretch to say that 2000+ years of religious ideology and custom can undo millions of years in human evolution. You are indeed explaining  one of the reasons that women perhaps have less sex than men but I do not believe that you have adequately proven that women are more or equally desiring of sex as men are.

        Your story does remind me of an article that I read recently that talks about how men and women are different but equal and that this feminist view that men are trying to hold women down is false.  How evolution has designed both sexes with strengths and weaknesses that compliment each other. You hear alot about how men are at the top, are all the bosses, get paid more money than women. However few also look at the other end of the spectrum. More men are homeless, more men die in wars, more men are in jail. The idea being, which your story some what supports, is that throughout history life has favored the men who took risks and the women who played it safe in terms of who reproduced. Not that this is right or fair, but cultures rarely were fair to an individual and more about preserving the culture itself. The man who took the greatest risks would be the one that had a better chance of reproducing. Inversely, women who played it safe would be (in your words) carried off into matrimony by a “Hero”. Heroes take risks.

        But whatever, this is going off the path of our discussion…

        Point being, you did nothing in your reply to prove that women are as horny as men. I also find it insulting for you to assume that I am declaring myself some sort of ruler of gender when all I am doing is supplying an alternate view and backing it up with some sound reason. I never approved of this idea and I fail to see where you get the idea that I said men have it so much better than women. My main goal was to show everyone perhaps where these differences came from. This idea of Man vs Woman or Boy is Better than Girl, or Girl is Better than Boy. Why cant both sexes be acknowledged as being Different but Equal? I also believe that if more people did take this view that it would lead to an even better understanding of the human species. Because like you said, there is still plenty to be discovered.

      • Random Guest

        To both Guest and Remy:
                 This is the old debate about “Nature vs. Nurture.”  And as always, the answer isn’t mutually exclusive, but rather,  both Nature and Nurture play a role in how women and men behave as sexual beings.  It is not evolution OR culture that shapes how we act, but a combination of BOTH these things that influence us and instruct us on how to behave.  Believing that only one factor influences us is simplistic and naive.  The percentage that each factor will influence an individual will vary between person to person and from situation to situation.  In other words, it is only by combining both your explanations that we arrive at a more complete truth.

      • Guest

        Also, the fact that you base all that you know about male/female relationships on the evolutionary theory, is frankly quite sad.

      • http://www.remylexington.blogspot.com Remy Lexington

        Yes because humans get their sex drives and sexual habits from magazines. lol.

      • Brian

        Yes because the average number of sexual partners doesn’t vary wildly between cultures. lol.

      • Guest

        Maybe you should pick up Cosmopolitan.

      • http://www.remylexington.blogspot.com Remy Lexington

        Although, this article is now 2 months old I figured I would post this here. Since I am still getting responses.

        I have done more research on the topic. I have looked into this much more. Discussed it with colleagues and have come to the conclusion that when it comes to women and men and their desire for sex. It is again like nature has always set up the male and female. The same, but different.

        Honestly it seems quite silly now for me to think that one was more than the other. In fact it seems more so that when it comes to males the desire for sex is a low to medium constant. While females desire is not as constant as a males but when arousal happens a females desire is much more intense.

        To clarify this does not include whether males or females think more about sex but rather the levels of sexual desire. ie: horniness  / state of arousal.  Which it is now my belief that if you were to quantify both sexes over a period of time you would find it about equal.

    • Tyrone

      hay guythz, i fink we’re taking dis a bit 2 seriouz ye?

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=612928768 Samie Rose

      tldr

    • guest

      “Men are “allowed” to fall in bed with anyone because in nature hes doing
      what he is supposed to do. Fuck as much as he can. Females don’t get
      this “allowance” because she is supposed be pickier with who she lays
      with.”

      This seems to depend on the ratio of male to females in a society. When there are more men available the women tend to sleep around more and have more partners. Don’t believe me? Move to a military base. Even in primates we see examples of kin that are monogamy, polyandry, and polygamy within the same species. Sexual resources, environment, and social conditioning all are factors when it comes to our sexual selections. Further, human sexuality studies rarely talk about homosexuality, transgenders, and bisexuality. So, I don’t buy that “we’re just made that way.” Nothing is black and white.

      • http://www.remylexington.blogspot.com Remy Lexington

        I do believe that environment does influence how a species will react to survive as you pointed out in your example of females on a military base  sleeping around more. You could attribute this to some sort of evolutionary protocol to keep the gene pool mixed. While I understand that people have sex for reasons besides procreation we must also understand that the main function of sex is to reproduce. Nothing is indeed black and white but you are picking out exceptions to the rule. I also believe social conditioning is not as strong as a factor as you might think.

        As a general understanding in nature males are the ones seeking out females to mate with. This is not just specific to humans but many other species function the same way. You don’t have to “buy” this explanation, but in ignoring it you would be ignoring a large part of the way nature works.

      • Danny Saunders

        I tend to agree with most of what you’ve written — as politically incorrect as some of it may be. But this…

        “As a general understanding in nature males are the ones seeking out females to mate with. ”

        …I’m not so sure about. If you’re talking strictly sexual encounters, then yes. But for general “mating,” women seek it as much as men do. They may wait to be pursued rather than do the pursuing, but that’s a bit of evolutionary deception, I think. Because women will still need to put themselves out there–even if it’s just enough to get male attention. They often don’t need to do more; men will find them if they make themselves reasonably available. But watch the woman who doesn’t get many male suitors, and she’ll become as miserable and desperate as the sex-starved single guy. (This isn’t a judgment, just an observation.)

    • Guest

      naturalistic fallacy all over bro

  • http://twitter.com/vickstahs Vicky Nguyen

    I would love to read your take on what women can get away with that men can’t, lols. Lovely read, as always Mr Connell.

  • Rayan

    It’s not the media baby it’s the way we were created. BUT the media does hyper sexualize and men do become hypermasculine and women hypersexualized. But these characteristics are pretty natural and widespread (to consumers and non) and normal.

    In high school and college, my girl friends would tell me they were afraid of losing their virginity, even though they as progressive and liberal as they come but they couldn’t help how they felt. They thought I felt the same way and I couldn’t understand why I was pretending to relate when I actually couldn’t.

  • Anonymous

    Last point was totally moot. #Disappointed

  • macgyver51

    You know, pop-feminism can be just as cliche as any Judd Apatow movie.

  • Charlie.

    Wow I’m seeing walls of text in the comments.
    “A day that I see the roles reversed —a day that I see a chubby woman holding hands with a Brad Pitt—is a day I will be so happy.”
    America is weird. Here I see this everyday.

    • Aaron

      Near a military base?

  • Anonymous

    i like peed myself while watching that video. so fucking funny.

  • http://www.facebook.com/boelbaum Brenda Oelbaum

    If you are in the San Francisco Area…there is a great art exhibition that explores this very idea at SOMArts…it’s up until the end of November.  Man As Object: Reversing the Gaze.  Yes some of it is Goofy…some is homoerotic, and some is just plain hot.  http://manasobject.weebly.com/

  • http://twitter.com/BexPWM Rebecca

    Oats are “sown”, not “sewn”.

  • Mal

    what?? bradley cooper isn’t single in the hangover..he’s married with a child. do your homework you dingdong. 

    • Mal

      oh oops..you said that…..still think you’re kind of a dingdong though. 

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