The Last Time You Fall In Love With Someone

The last time you fall in love with someone, you won’t know it will be the last. Or maybe you will. People often say things like, “I knew this was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with!” but do they really? Are they positive that they aren’t just getting punked by their own fluctuating levels of serotonin?

Serotonin: Ha, fooled you again! I flooded your brain and made you feel things that weren’t necessarily real. #sorrynotsorry
You: Curses! Serotonin: 1. Me: 0.

I mean, does anyone ever enter a relationship honestly thinking that it will be their last one? Two days into it, you think, “Well, this is it. This is the end of the line for my heart. It’s too tired and doesn’t want to travel from bed to bed anymore.” We exist somewhere between. Relationships aren’t started with the intention of eventually ending. But to feel like you’ll never sleep with another person ever again might be unfathomable, no matter how buddy-buddy you are with monogamy.

Do you ever wonder who will be the last person you sleep with? What will the last naked body look like? We’re on this quest to find someone who fits the concept of Forever but I think it’s an idea we all end up having trouble grasping. What if the last person you fell in love with wasn’t even someone you were married to? You were in your thirties and fell madly in love with someone, only to discover that it ultimately didn’t work. So you broke up, dusted yourself, and waited for the next person to come. Except they never did. Oops! The last person you truly loved wasn’t supposed to be the last but here you are anyway.

We sometimes feel like we’re guaranteed love. In an ideal world, we would be. There’d be someone out there for everyone and they would be the perfect match for each other. People wouldn’t marry for money or out of fear. But we obviously know it doesn’t work that way. And because of this, they are people making money off of your anxieties. The sad pop songs are dedicated to the ones who had no idea that the last love of their life would come too soon and leave too early. Sex and the City would’ve never existed in a world of guaranteed love. So many books wouldn’t have been published. Things would just be so different.

The last time you fall in love with someone might also be the first. It’s rare but it happens. The last time you fall in love with someone could happen when you’re 17 or 29 or 37 or 80 years old. You never know who you’re going to meet, fall in love with, fall out of love with, and ultimately die with. It’s something we will never know until the day we pass away, which is strange to think about. We have this image of the last person we love being that someone we marry and getting old and gray with them. But since we have no control over when we die, it could be whoever. It could even be your stupid boyfriend/girlfriend from high school! (PLEASE GOD NO!)

I guess the lesson here is to love every relationship like it could be your very last. Don’t take anything for granted because you never know what life has in store for us. Who knows, you could die a premature death or become a spinster. So cherish every lover while you still have them in your grasp. TC mark

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  • Anonymous

    I’ve fallen in love just once in my life, but he never loved me back. Actually, no one has ever fallen in love with me. I really think I’m gonna die without ever experiencing love, because this isn’t an ideal world.

    • cat

       The most beautiful thing is, when you fall in love and if he doesn’t love you back, you still experience love. The guy I loved most, never loved me back. He was my best friend, and now that he is with someone else, happy, and here I am hoping the best for him. I still love him, and yes it might not be my ideal world, but he is in his.

      • http://www.tinacris.ca Cristina

        You have a wonderful outlook.

      • Len Yeh

        I have to keep reminding myself of this in order to live.

      • Len Yeh

        I have to keep reminding myself of this in order to live.

    • Guest

      It may not be an ideal world, but it is a world of possibility. In fact, someone at this very moment may be crazy about you, and you wouldn’t even know it. I was friends with this kid in high school who was in love with me but too shy to ever do anything about it. He didn’t tell me until after we graduated. I had no idea. I sat next to the kid in homeroom for 4 years and had no idea. Don’t be so sure that there isn’t someone out there right now thinking the world of you.

  • http://twitter.com/syst3m_32 Nav D

    Nice! I have learned few things, now to implement them..

  • cc

    nicely put!

  • Janelle

    Beaut.

  • http://www.nosexcity.com NoSexCity

    Interesting, though a bit too whimsically Disney for my taste.

    • macgyver51

      How dare one of his articles not be pessimistic, petty, and shallow!

    • macgyver51

      How dare one of his articles not be pessimistic, petty, and shallow!

      • http://www.nosexcity.com NoSexCity

        Still mad after yesterday, huh? Sowwie lil guy!

      • macgyver51

        Bless your heart

      • http://www.nosexcity.com NoSexCity

        Still mad after yesterday, huh? Sowwie lil guy!

  • macgyver51

    Subtract the Sex and the City reference and I’m on board. Good article.

  • sinahle

    “It could even be your stupid boyfriend/girlfriend from high school! (PLEASE GOD NO!)”

    #truth

  • Eric

    I actually found this article rather depressing. D:

  • LioSencillo

    reminds me a little of this article:  http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/11/all-the-single-ladies/8654/

  • Neil Kurtz

    Your articles are always so well timed…

  • Neil Kurtz

    Your articles are always so well timed…

  • Neil Kurtz

    Your articles are always so well timed…

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    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://dirtyyoungmen.wordpress.com Maxwell Chance

    Sometimes you write the most obvious stuff. But it is typically something I have taken for granted or forgotten. This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Lifted my spirits. Thanks.

  • http://twitter.com/recessional ko•ko•ro

    still waiting for that first time to happen.

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