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I Hate Drunk People

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I know this sounds hypocritical (welcome to humanity) but I really hate drunk people. I hate them even when I’m drunk. I look at their droopy faces and delayed reactions and want to shake them back to sobriety. You see, I pride myself on being a “good drunk.” I don’t get angry; I don’t get mad. I’m me, but drunk. Drunk me is closely related to Sober me, which means I’m usually a fun anti-buzzkill time. There’s no Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde kind of situation happening. You won’t ever look into my eyes and be like, “Ryan’s gone!” because I’m always right here, even if I’m three sheets to the wind.

But I often find myself in the minority. I’ll go to a party and watch girls sob to each other in the corner of the room and talking about their terrible fathers while I witness two dudes get riled up over something so trivial. There’ll be paranoia that someone is talking crap because the alcohol has caused insecurities to rise to the surface and act completely irrational. I just hate it. I hate watching people whom I have the utmost respect for be reduced to tears and vomit.

Admittedly, I got issues. I’ve written about having an alcoholic mother (whose now sober) before and I definitely think that has a played a role in me having little tolerance for bad drunks. I’m immediately brought back to living with my mom and having to watch her stumble around the house while asking me slurred questions. Ugh, just typing that made my blood boil again! So when I see someone who clearly can’t handle their booze, I can’t help but get annoyed at them. As far as I’m concerned, I’ve done my time with alcoholics. I don’t need anymore in my life.

I’m aware that this is insensitive of me. After all, people have problems with booze and you have to exhibit compassion. And I do, trust me. I’ve accompanied friends to AA meetings before; I’ve been their cheerleader. I just have no tolerance for the person who won’t acknowledge they suck at drinking and should probably stop. There’s only so many times I can apologize for your behavior and make sure you get home. At a certain point, I can’t be your fairy drunk mother and bail you out. I did that for years with my mom and I’m not about to take on a new project.

Every day I thank my lucky stars that I have a healthy relationship with alcohol because given my genes, it could’ve gone the other way. In fact, it still could. Both my mother ad uncle became alcoholics later in life, after drinking casually for years, so you never know. I’m also not suggesting that I’m the perfect drunk to ever have lived on planet wasted. I’ve definitely had my fair share of regrettable moments. I just wish that people would be conscious of the relationship they have to drugs and alcohol. It’s a blurry line we constantly walk and you have to be mindful of not falling on your face. TC mark

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    • LS

      errors in 3rd (“whose”) and last (“ad = and”) paragraphs, not hatin’, just sayin’

    • LS

      errors in 3rd (“whose”) and last (“ad = and”) paragraphs, not hatin’, just sayin’

    • LS

      errors in 3rd (“whose”) and last (“ad = and”) paragraphs, not hatin’, just sayin’

    • LS

      errors in 3rd (“whose”) and last (“ad = and”) paragraphs, not hatin’, just sayin’

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        • Anonymous

          Your the worse!

        • Anonymous

          Your the worse!

        • LS

          mom ?

      • Anonymous

        Don’t forget “I got issues” and “anymore” (start and end of 3rd)

    • Line

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    • RT

      “who’s” :)

    • Alcoholic

      A lot of us wish that we could acknowledge our drinking problems and stop. Addiction is a little more powerful than that. A lot of us hate ourselves because we love you and wish we were capable of stopping. Its really hard caring for an active Alcoholic, I’m sorry. Its great you’re willing to support friends in recovery. You have a lot of resentment to the hell you experienced with your Mother, I am reading. Al-Anon may serve you very well in learning how to take care of You, for a change. Because trust me honey, we aren’t proud of selfishly consuming everything we touch until it no longer is capable of loving us any longer. Thats just what drugs do!

    • Alcoholic

      A lot of us wish that we could acknowledge our drinking problems and stop. Addiction is a little more powerful than that. A lot of us hate ourselves because we love you and wish we were capable of stopping. Its really hard caring for an active Alcoholic, I’m sorry. Its great you’re willing to support friends in recovery. You have a lot of resentment to the hell you experienced with your Mother, I am reading. Al-Anon may serve you very well in learning how to take care of You, for a change. Because trust me honey, we aren’t proud of selfishly consuming everything we touch until it no longer is capable of loving us any longer. Thats just what drugs do!

    • Anonymous

      Love. This basically says everything I feel about drunk people. “I just have no tolerance for the person who won’t acknowledge they suck
      at drinking and should probably stop. There’s only so many times I can
      apologize for your behavior and make sure you get home.” <— You said it perfectly!

    • Strange Friend

      What’s with all the I’s lately. Where did the You’s go? Did you finally abandon the second person?

    • Asshole

      Who will edit the editors?

    • hmm

      Wow, I hate drunk people too and it has to do with the fact that both my fathers are alcoholic.  I wish so much to have a husband who doesn’t drink or knows his limit, but who knows.  

    • http://karyninny.com/ karyn

      i’m drunk right now and i love you even though you hate me…I LOVE YOU MAN

    • http://karyninny.com/ karyn

      i’m drunk right now and i love you even though you hate me…I LOVE YOU MAN

    • Jo

      “ALCOHOLIC” missed the point – Ryan acknowledges that drugs/alcohol are hard to control. But there’s no excuse for saying “that’s just what drugs do!” No honey, that’s what you CHOSE to let them do to you. I can’t tell you the last time a bottle of vodka ran over and shoved itself down my throat until I was a drunken abusive mess… Nope, pretty sure I did that all by myself. I bought it, opened it, poured it and never once did that bottle force me to do anything I didn’t want to do. So, yes addiction is hard to control and yes, sometimes it does feel like you’re powerless against it,  but people, until we take responsibility for how we interact with all the substances available to us, we’re just going to be those bad drunks.

      • Alcoholic

        you called me honey out of love right, no passive agressive condescension…right?

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