6 Ways To Cheer Yourself Up

I’m a really emotional person, which means that I often find myself in sour moods for no reason. As a result, I’ve become an expert over at the years at giving myself CPR and bringing happiness and sunshine back into my life. If I ever find myself living in the bell jar, these are the things I do to make myself feel better.

1. Make yourself look really attractive

Whenever I feel like crap (emotionally or physically), I make a point to never let my interior match my exterior. That means whenever I have a cough or just am battling a bad mood, I channel that sadness into pure disgusting vanity. Yes, I’m one of those gross people who feels good when they look good. If I spend extra time in the morning putting together a cute outfit, styling my hair, and spraying a ton of my favorite fragrance all over my body, I know my mood will improve dramatically. Plus, it’s just interesting to make yourself look like a million bucks when emotionally you feel like you’re in the negative. You feel like a damn jester who’s just fooling everyone. “Oh, you think I look amazing today? Thanks. I hate myself!”

2. Take out some displaced anger on your deli guy

If you live in New York, chances are you see your deli guy more than you see your actual friends. They see you when you’re wasted, stoned, happy, or sad, and they can tell where you’re at emotionally, spiritually, and sexually just by the things your purchasing that day. “Two chocolate bars? Someone’s in a very, very dark place today!” If you ever need someone to take out your aggression on, why not do it to the deli guy?! God knows you can’t do it to the person you’re actually upset with so go ahead! Scream at the dude for not carrying Fruit Stripes gum or whatever. You’ll feel so much better and the deli guy will just be super confused.

3. Touch yourself….

I mean, duh, number one stress reliever right here. The great thing about working from home is that you can take as many “smoke breaks” as you want. Oh dear, I’ve already said too much!

4. Buy something that’s totally superfluous but inexpensive

The other day, I wandered into some expensive home decor store in a complete fugue. I was sad for no reason (It was Sunday?) and I wanted to buy something that would make me feel like an empowered domestic goddess. I wanted an item that screamed, “I AM A PERSON WHO HAS IT ALL TOGETHER! DOES ANYONE NEED A STRAINER BECAUSE I HAVE ONE. IT’S FROM SOME BOUGIE GROWN UP PLACE. SERIOUSLY, BORROW IT!” Yeah, I quickly realized that everything cost over 200 hundred dollars so you know what I ended up buying? Lemonade mix. For some reason, the store also sold fancy flavored lemonade mix and you better believe I was all over that like depression on an open oven. It was only like seven dollars, which meant that I would never even have buyer’s remorse! I immediately went home, made the damn lemonade, and drank it like I had just run a marathon. It tasted good and my mood perked up!

5. Ignore people

There’s something sickly satisfying about ignoring people’s texts and phone calls. When I’m not feeling too hot, I liberally press the “Ignore’ button on my phone without texting an explanation. Why? Because I’m in a bad mood and I don’t need to alert friends and family when I just want to spend the day watching TV and ordering delivery. I know this is 2011 but we don’t owe people anything. If you gotta do you, DO YOU. Deal with the “WTF? WHERE DID YOU GO?” later when you can actually deal with it.

6. Take a bath

Have you reacquainted yourself with your bathtub yet? If not, do so immediately. When I started living alone, I would take long baths in the winter with a cup of whiskey and let me tell you, it was HEAVEN. It’s like a spa in your very own apartment. I forgot how zonked out it makes you and how loose your muscles feel afterwards. Baths always cheer me up and they’re also perfect for curing hangovers! TC mark

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Ryan O'Connell

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“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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  • http://rayguntest.tumblr.com Raegan

    UGH! Being a worker in the service industry, I find it appalling when people take their issues out on me. IT RUINS OUR DAY. STOP IT!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=10036647 Aimee Vondrak

      I was hoping he meant like, let the deli guy have it as in I JUST CANT HANDLE THINGS TODAY OKAY I HATE MYSELF I HATE MY LIFE rather than getting on his case about some gum. Some passive aggressive nonsense there. I agree with you Raegan as someone in service myself. Boo Ryan :( but I liked the rest of the list! Good ideas! I’m going to try number one today when I go to work.

      • Ryan O'Connell

        it was a joke oh my goddddd please give me more credit ok

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=10036647 Aimee Vondrak

        Except I’m not sure if it was… :)

  • http://twitter.com/Berrybrooke Beresford Brooke

    Revive your day by shitting on someone else’s. You wanker.

  • Tergus

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Sometimes it just makes me feel better to be reminded that were all  just humans who sometimes feel bad.

  • ariel

    As a waitress I completely disagree with taking out your anger on service people. Just because you are having a shitty day doesn’t mean you get to make my day shitty especially when it’s my job to be nice and accommodating to you. :P

    • http://twitter.com/kaimcn Kai

      I’m going to throw my support behind Ariel (and service industry people everywhere) on this one. It sucks that you’re having a crap day but it isn’t the deli guy (barista, bus driver, door man)’s fault and you’re just going to make their day worse.

      Improve your day (and theirs) by being nicer than you feel. It might perk you up.

      • Ryan O'Connell


      • Crystal

        Your joke obviously didn’t translate well to the masses of people who don’t know you personally. 

        Also, I really wanted to like this article from the title alone but unfortunately it wasn’t very good advice. :[

      • http://twitter.com/kaimcn Kai

        I didn’t get the joke but I still like your writing.

        The thing is, there are a ton of people out there whose solution to their own misery is to spread it around. I wasn’t assuming you were that type of person, but you wrote as though you were that type of person.

        Can we still get along or do we need to fight on the internet playground after school?

      • http://twitter.com/kaimcn Kai

        I didn’t get the joke but I still like your writing.

        The thing is, there are a ton of people out there whose solution to their own misery is to spread it around. I wasn’t assuming you were that type of person, but you wrote as though you were that type of person.

        Can we still get along or do we need to fight on the internet playground after school?

      • http://twitter.com/kaimcn Kai

        I didn’t get the joke but I still like your writing.

        The thing is, there are a ton of people out there whose solution to their own misery is to spread it around. I wasn’t assuming you were that type of person, but you wrote as though you were that type of person.

        Can we still get along or do we need to fight on the internet playground after school?

  • YP

    Disney Pandora usually does it for me, and I’m not even a Disney fan..try it

  • Guestropod

    Ugh, I can never make myself look good when I’m feeling down.  More likely to turn into crying because ~I’m so ugly~ and ~everything I own looks stupid~

    • Chin Up

      :( I wanna give you a hug. *cyber hug* I know the feeling too well sometimes…

  • laertes

    i used to like this site then i stopped liking it because of shit like this ^^^^^^^^ all of it

  • mashka

    Baths are the bomb.com. My routine is a vodka tonic (classy I know) or a glass of wine, some l’occitane lavendar bubble bath, aroma therapy candles and my spa playlist .

  • macgyver51

    Do something randomly nice for someone else. Nothing big, but something just for the sake of kindness. I know its a cheesy concept to some but I guarantee it works better than all of these combined.

  • Anon

    I really related to this, thank you for writing. As someone who is also super emotional, I often find myself in a funk for no reason as well…such as at this very moment. feel better already :)

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  • http://www.nosexcity.com NoSexCity

    My deli guy is always so sweet I could never be mean… plus his son’s too hot to chance fucking that (potential for bad decision) up.

  • Rebecca

    Advice: write about the same things but write about them in a prettier way.

  • http://www.facebook.com/grc15r Gregory Costa

    Or I could do  exactly the opposite of what you wrote in How to Always be Unhappy. 

  • http://twitter.com/rainbowcouch Rainbow Couch

    This one’s going on my Facebook Rainbow Couch page too.  Go on, be my assistant Ryan!  Stop fighting it – you know you wanna.  The stuff you write makes more sense than a lot of the stuff I hear from fellow therapists. 

  • anna

    Terrible advice from start to finish. If you’re feeling down, the last thing you should do is give in to impulsiveness, or look for a solution through other people’s reactions (attractiveness, yelling at deli guy, buying superfluous merchandise, ignoring people). 
    If you really want to get a handle on your emotions, don’t just take a bath and touch yourself, rather get IN touch with yourself. Write, read, pause, meditate, and most of all, understand that its possible to feel lousy WITHOUT hating yourself for it. Emotions are the spice of life.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=647307612 Nina Thomas

    seems really horrible to be rude to your deli guy bc you’re upset about your own life…

    • Ryan O'Connell

      jokejokejoke ive never been rude to my deli guy. who is anyway? jokejokjoke

  • guest

    I think this was awesome….perhaps its because I’ve done every single one of these..heehee

  • Anonymous

    a) the number of people who apparently couldn’t tell that he wasn’t remotely serious about the deli guy thing is kind of disconcerting
    b) ignoring everyone is always on my list when I’m upset haha, I’m glad there are other people who don’t find company useful when it comes to cheering yourself up

  • http://www.facebook.com/ivanavi Ivan Dutton

    ryan this couldn’t have come at a better time. actually i’ve been so down lately (recent college grad slump). In between emailing my resume to half the world I stumbled upon your article and now i’m gonna doll myself up and hit the town with the girls. love your work sooo much. you’re like the awkward 20 something’s oprah. hail ryan!

  • http://lostcount.tumblr.com Lost Count

    you forgot do drugs

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  • erin

    was hoping for actual advice re: how to cheer up, could’ve used some of that today

  • Guest

    wtf, leave deli workers alone.

  • Anon

    wow someone who knows exactly how I feel. I love you. But leave the deli worker alone. I used to be one.

  • http://www.twitter.com/mexifrida Frida

    It’s ok Ryan, most of us know the deli thing is a joke and we love this article a lot.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=10036647 Aimee Vondrak

      Oh come onnnnn you didn’t know till he wrote like 2938709342587 comments about how jokey he was being! :)

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