The Gayest Places I’ve Ever Been To

4. Soho, London

When I rented an apartment in Soho for a month, I had no idea that I would be living on the gayest block in all of London. I remember pulling up in a cab to Old Compton Street and seeing all of the rainbow flags and sex shops, thinking that I had accidentally landed on Santa Monica Boulevard. Alas, I was merely in Soho—London’s premiere theater district and home to many gay bars. It was a bit overwhelming to live next to Dick and Ass but sometimes it could be really fun. When I didn’t feel like venturing to Hackney to go to The Joiner’s Arms, I would go to an underground gay bar a few blocks from my apartment that had dismembered Barbie dolls against the wall and potent cocktails. One memorable night, I chatted up a gorgeous dude and his best girlfriend. Things were going well until his friend started talking to me about having suicidal thoughts and wanting to jump out of a window. Even stranger was when she continued to steal my drink right in front of me, claiming it was hers. I would be like, “No???” and bring it closer to me but within two minutes, she would just move it back towards her side of the table. Eventually I told the guy that, even though he was hot,  his friend was a hot mess and I had to leave.

Old Compton could get pretty insane. Since most pubs close at midnight, the street would be rowdy by 7:00PM. Londoners love to get wasted and they loved to do it on my block, and it wouldn’t be uncommon for a drunk dude to get all creepy and weird with me as I searched for my keys. In the end though, I enjoyed it mostly because I wasn’t in America and had a higher tolerance for gay bullshit.

5. San Francisco, California

I lived in San Francisco for two years and almost never got laid. I moved there my freshman year of college, thinking I was going to my mothership and that I was going to be having more sex than I knew what to do with. It didn’t work out that way though.  To be fair, I think it had more to do with my state of mind at the time than the city because it is one giant freak on a leash. Castro is kind of whatevs and lame but other areas are stellar. Gay boys in San Francisco can be unconventional babes and still have loads of sex. There’s no gay boy ideal. There’s no attitude because it would go against the city’s precious NAMASTE yoga vibe. My favorite gay bar is The Phone Booth, a smoky dark room full of babes and strong drinks. There’s also a jukebox that plays more music than just “Another One Bites The Dust.”

Another interesting aspect of SF’s gay culture is that it promotes monogamy and long-term relationships. Don’t get me wrong, there’s definitely a hedonistic hookup culture but there’s also a “Let’s walk our dogs and be in gay boy love and buy organic” vibe. I’ve always said that if I moved back to SF, I would probably have a boyfriend and a pug in 2.5 seconds. The city just promotes it.

6. New York, New York

I mean, I think I’ve already talked enough about being gay in New York. TC mark

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“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

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  • thepanderson

    As a WeHo resident, I loved your description. It pretty much describes why I’m leaving to Boystown in Chicago (among other reasons). LA in general is just way too spread out to have reliable clusters of friends. Palm Springs is weird too.

  • http://twitter.com/jkymarsh J. Ky Marsh

    Things I would love to read: an article by Ryan O’Connell that has little or nothing to do with being gay, gay people, gay places, or gay things.

    Otherwise, I’m pretty done with your articles.

    • klaus

      cum on! stop being so hard on him.

    • Troublelady

      No one is forcing you to read them…

      Methinks thou dost protest too much.

  • http://twitter.com/jkymarsh J. Ky Marsh

    Things I would love to read: an article by Ryan O’Connell that has little or nothing to do with being gay, gay people, gay places, or gay things.

    Otherwise, I’m pretty done with your articles.

  • klaus

    My BEDROOM is the gayest place I’ve ever been to.

  • http://twitter.com/gayworldproblem Gay World Problems

    That SoHo hot mess of a best girlfriend was cock blocking you Ryan! Down with cock blockers! Although I have done it before to other guys, woops.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_EUL6B7WZUNAHGMO5KRCKZTGP54 Damen Handle

    There’s a Boystown in LA? I’ve only known of the one in Chicago.

  • http://twitter.com/mung_beans 371747

    sounds pretty gay, but I’d REALLY like to know where the gayest place in Iowa is

  • http://twitter.com/freckleballek Matthew Ballek

    Come here and have a gay adventure to MONTREAL. yummmay quebecois. 

  • http://summerslowrunner.wordpress.com/ Summer

    How is it possible that Key West, FL is not on this list?

  • http://rayguntest.tumblr.com Raegan

    The Phone booth is a gay bar? News to me.

  • Taylor

    You forgot Smith College. Oops.

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