Another Reason Why Facebook And Twitter Are Ruining Our Lives

One of the more shameful aspects of graduating college these days is not only the scarlet letter “U” for Unemployed, but rather the constant comparisons you’ll make to your friends who are doing well. It’s a race after college that no one really talks about—the race to find your dream job and have bragging rights. That’s honestly one of the biggest draws of getting a job now. You get to update your Facebook and Twitter with statuses that essentially read, “Screw all y’all. I’m doing great! SEE YOU SUCKERS AT THE REUNION!”

Oh, how times have changed. In high school and college, it was all about getting a boyfriend/girlfriend and bragging about it all over the internet. You’d post pictures of the two of you and write cute things on each other’s walls, which you knew your single friends would see and get bummed out about. When you graduate college, The Great First Job becomes the new Great First Relationship. Now, instead of promoting your relationship, you flaunt your professional life as a way to make “friends” feel bad about themselves. And if you happen to be one of those people with a great job AND a great relationship, well, you can just…go far, far away from me.

We all have those people we’re secretly competitive with. Maybe it’s the person who was the golden child of your major in college. You always compared your progress to theirs and always felt the need to one-up them. I know you’re following their post-grad life like a hawk. You’ll want to kill yourself when you see a status update that goes, “OMG, I’VE BEEN GIVEN THIS AMAZING OPPORTUNITY AT BLAH BLAH. I’M SO SHOCKED AND HONORED!” It takes all of your might to not comment, “BRB. Killing myself.” Admit it. You want to see some people fail. It gives you a sick satisfaction. Hey, I’m not judging. No shame in the cutthroat post-grad game.

I’ve talked at length about how technology is sort of ruining our lives and this is just another reason to add to the list. With Facebook and Twitter, we’re able to track people’s successes and failures, the latter of which can be particularly painful to see. We are reminded everyday of where we’re at in our lives or, in many cases, where we’re not. Um, I’m no doctor, but that doesn’t seem to be too healthy for our fragile psyches. It’s bad enough toiling away at some crappy job when you’re 26. You don’t need to be reminded that Zoe, the talentless lesbian from your fashion class, is having her designs featured in the new French Vogue. TC mark

Ryan O'Connell

I'm a brat.

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  • http://www.wilfordlauren.tumblr.com Lauren Wilford

    Plus, this pulls the point right out from under class reunions, amirite?

  • mashka

    Like Lauren mentioned, I was just saying this to people the other day- Facebook has ruined the allure of high school reunions. Seriously, I was looking for a reunion experience a la Romy & Michele but no. Now, thanks to Facebook, I already KNOW what everyone is doing, who they’re with, how fat they’ve gotten, what job they have, how many babies they’re popping out, who they married, where they live, and how many times a day they take a shit basically…. so the mystery is gone.

    Now there’s no point of a 10 year class reunion. I already know what everyone is doing and where they’re at in their lives and I’d like to keep most of them right there on Facebook and not in real life, thank you very much.

    • http://www.nosexcity.com NoSexCity

      True story. Our generation will have no use for reunions – what a weird thing to have die out. Thanks, internet.

      • mashka

        I think it’s falling under a slow and sad progression into real life social interactions dying out…

  • http://www.nosexcity.com NoSexCity

    Have the worst time not giving in to the little green monster when I read updates from people with all sorts of cool, creative non-jobs (presumably of the high paying variety) that are always posting about the cool locations they’re at/going to and who they’re meeting/bringing along for the ride.

  • http://twitter.com/kelvin_lee Kelvin Lee

    I saw your NYT article Ryan and I’m (really) happy for you. But… BRB.

  • Kyle Meade

    Truth

  • http://twitter.com/palespectre flipside of a memory

    You speak the truth again.  Facebook/Twitter made me realise I am still the same loser that I was back in highschool/university. While the other folks do deserve all the great success they are enjoying, the not so talented ones and the ones who made my life miserable are making me question myself since they seem to be enjoying such great lives (based on their facebook photos) and here I am spending my days still searching for a future and reading this article and agreeing wholeheartedly.

    • http://twitter.com/kelvin_lee Kelvin Lee

      Don’t be discouraged, everyone produces an idealized version of their social lives because they see the same from everyone else. It’s an escalating race to the bottom of our collective self-esteem.

    • http://twitter.com/kelvin_lee Kelvin Lee

      Don’t be discouraged, everyone produces an idealized version of their social lives because they see the same from everyone else. It’s an escalating race to the bottom of our collective self-esteem.

  • Goodness

    Just focus on achieving something, if you’re dedicated everything else should fall to the side.

    But more importantly, if genuinely good people are doing well, just be inspired by them and rejoice in the fact that good people getting what they deserve!

    • a.

      This is a joke, right?

  • lolastrawbunny

    im scooping ice cream at 27 with a bachelors in biochemestry…yup thanks facebook for constantly reminding me i suck at life, and will most likely always be alone

  • http://twitter.com/mung_beans 371747

    stop giving a shit

  • Cait Durham

    This is why I don’t have facebook. I don’t wish for anyone to do poorly in my real life, so why do I wish it online? I realized that I was doing this and deleted my page. I think it starts online then manifests in reality. See also: bullying.

  • Anonymous

    I’m asian, in kindergarten we were already comparing our success rate.

  • GUEST

    So, um, why is everyone here socializing online through comments?

  • Amnesiacsiblings

    I’m 19 and qualified to do barely anything. I go to The New School though, so, this will be me when I graduate and when people stop feeling bad enough for me to support me financially sometimes. Like on my birthday. I already got rid of my Facebook though, and while an immense feeling of relief from being called a whore all the time has subsided…. I know have about 95% less friends to do things with.

  • MM

    i think you can still have a reunion! 

    i mean yeah you have seen pictures, but the best thing about meeting people again are their voices…i mean you want them to tell their “successes” or “failures” so when they lie…BAM you knew because it was on facebook.

    Hopefully my study abroad program has a reunion because I am totally going with/without facebook! 

    I guess it’s different seeing someone in person than online….you create a character online and it will totally change reality in real life. 

  • Dropsofleaves

    facebook lies

  • Geoff

    I came here to read some interesting comments about social networking sites ! To be honest i dont like anywhere where i am only allowed to condense what i have to say . It`s a shame , All i here these days is twitter , tweet # this and that . Plus you must be up to date with the latest jargon otherwise you wont be seen as being cool by all the people that read whatever you are trying to say . All this ,, My view is that we have only ourselves to blame ! using abrieviations when we text anyone on our cell phones , mobiles in england ! to make it cheaper or when time is tight . We have to live with it because we started it , why are you bothered if someone is doing better than you ! ! ! Are they ? ? Are they really ? dont buy all you read ! ! get real , love you all .

  • Geoff

    I came here to read some interesting comments about social networking sites ! To be honest i dont like anywhere where i am only allowed to condense what i have to say . It`s a shame , All i here these days is twitter , tweet # this and that . Plus you must be up to date with the latest jargon otherwise you wont be seen as being cool by all the people that read whatever you are trying to say . All this ,, My view is that we have only ourselves to blame ! using abrieviations when we text anyone on our cell phones , mobiles in england ! to make it cheaper or when time is tight . We have to live with it because we started it , why are you bothered if someone is doing better than you ! ! ! Are they ? ? Are they really ? dont buy all you read ! ! get real , love you all .

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