How To Hate Everyone

Experience moments of pure rage. Overhear a disgusting old man trying to flirt with a college student in a coffee shop and feel a strong desire to turn around and shake him. “You are old and creepy. She is young and fresh off the boat. Please stop making her regret being born a woman. I hate you!”

Love people. Love them so very much. Study them curiously in malls, delis, your bedroom. Be constantly surprised by the kindness of strangers, the tenderness that can often exist between two people who don’t owe each other anything at all. They just want to help, want to make the hardships of daily living easier for everyone. They get it. We’re here for one another, okay?

But see and hear things every day that make you hate everyone on this planet. “Is this person really talking about his chakras at lunch? Did this boy really dump my friend over a text message? How can people be so awful to each other?” Watch the news, read about The Kardashians, and hate everyone just a little bit more.

Go to bars and get trapped into having a conversation with someone about their stupid job and their stupid hair and their stupid diet. Wonder if these things are actually coming out of their mouth. Their words are like bombs and they’re hitting you in the face. Wonder why and how do they exist. How have they gone through life saying such stupid things to strangers? Go back in the oven. You aren’t done yet.

Feel guilty about all of these feelings. You don’t want to feel like you’re better than everyone else. That’s so gross and largely inaccurate. People are so loving and brilliant and interesting. You learn so much from them and derive so much joy from social interactions. So why does it feel like sometimes everybody’s psycho except you? Why does it feel like you’re often living in an episode of The Twilight Zone—an alternate reality where it’s okay for people to be unabashed narcissists, say the most ridiculous things in casual conversation, and behave like a complete and utter asshole?

Maybe things would be better if you could actually say what you mean for once. Maybe things would be better if you could actually tell someone that they’re a terrible person without feeling like you’ve broken 10,000 social norms. Maybe your feelings wouldn’t be so pent up and you would be a lot…happier? Maybe. Let’s try it!

I hate you. You’re too insecure and I feel suffocated whenever I’m around you.

You are really #dark and we can’t hang out because you’re on too much Xanax and say weird things.

You’re not real. You’re just some weird dude the internet pooped out and tried to pass off as human.

You treat people terribly and don’t care about anyone but yourself. Shocking.

You make me too sad. You’re like a deflated balloon that’s fallen to the ground and can’t get back up.

You are a liar! You did not go to UCLA. You went to Santa Monica City College. And you don’t live in Bel Air. You live in the valley. Why are you lying about such inconsequential things? WHO CARES? You are awful!

That actually helped. I love everyone now. Sending love and light! TC mark

Ryan O'Connell

I'm a brat.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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  • Paideumaxx

    “You’re not real. You’re just some weird dude the internet pooped out and tried to pass off as human.”

  • http://twitter.com/no_cazador hunter ray

    people totally suck man.

  • Stefan

    sometimes I get the feeling that everyone except me is crazy, but more often than not I’m convinced that I’m the crazy one, in part because I am but also because I don’t understand how/that they “are real people.”

    and like, if you ever feel at ease with the state of the world, one of the easiest solutions is to read youtube comments. or read/watch something about michele bachmann  and keep in mind that she’s a real person whom other real people want to be president. or something about the tea party. or look anywhere on the internet/news, really.

    but then, I guess I’d rather just take some xanax and say weird things.

    • http://www.candicepayne.com Candice

      The easiest solution to feeling at ease with the state of the world is to not be on shrooms. Being on shrooms is the only time I’ve ever had that particular problem.

      • http://twitter.com/no_cazador hunter ray

        simple life, huh?

      • http://www.candicepayne.com Candice

        “Life. Don’t talk to me about life.”

  • Aa

    Your “hatred” of insecure/depressed people seems weird.

    • asil

      Not really – I work with a girl that is constantly putting herself down and turning positives into negative, and I’d like to smack the crap out of her most days…

      • guest

        that’s probably why a lot of people hate you

  • meow

    NAILED IT

  • http://twitter.com/blingless Dave P

    Dude, stop hanging out on the Westside.

  • em

    First paragraph = Perfection. Creepers cause an automatic rage fit.

    Especially the construction workers that stand on the streets leering/catcalling while I pass by that make me hate the world and everyone in it. 
    They. Suck.

  • http://twitter.com/heycunthead Ben

    you are perfect.

  • http://twitter.com/arhcamt R

    honesty is (most of the time) the best policy. we all could use a little lie every now and then.

  • vee

    um, fucking love the random #dark in the middle of one of the confessions :P 

  • http://twitter.com/ingenuegle Egle Makaraite

    I like this article but I feel like the title is misleading.

  • http://www.facebook.com/m.paigekelly Megan Kelly

    You forgot to add: read Thought Catalog. that will make you hate people. 

  • Tjweise91

    Hate some of Ryan O’Connell’s posts and then utterly enjoy these relatable streams of thought.

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